Biological family on program

That is a difficult position to be in. I probably would just skip the program all together if you are worried about hurting anyone's feeling.

Just don't do programs (:

Honestly, I've never been to a wedding with a program. Know what I have been to where there is always a program? Funerals. I may be the minority here (or maybe not) but I hate the idea of wedding programs in general.

I wish I could get away without doing them, but we can't :/ my mom understands my reasoning, but the fact she has helped with wedding planning and whatnot she feels like she should be recognized along with everyone else. I somewhat agree with my mom, but at the same time I feel like it's easier said than done. Our wedding party and family alone is rather large and our church has special customs so that's also more reasoning why we are doing programs

Could you just say "Bride's family" and avoid listing their exact relationship with you?

Hmm...That could be a possibility!

Any other ideas are welcome!

Dont do a program?

That one is tough! I do like the "Brides loved ones" suggestion..Also-by listing Maternal or paternal grandparents, nothing says there can only be two names listed.. people list step grandparents and so forth here too. So in your situation under Bride's Maternal Grandparents you would list both your moms biological and adoptive parents here having 4 names total..

ETA: words are hard today.

I probably should have mentioned that under the in loving memory section I'm listing "maternal and paternal" titles for my deceased grandparents. So, I don't really want it on there twice, plus that would probably confuse a lot of people. I would say out of the entire wedding planning process this is what is driving me the most crazy! I just feel like I won't be able to come up with a solution!

As far as your situation, can you list all your parents or are you wanting to leave your "sperm donor" completely off?

Example-

Parents of Bride: first line (names)

Second line ("sperm donor")

Just a suggestion. Both my parents are remarried so that's how mine will be listed since I technically have 4 names to list

I think Richard's suggestion sounds best.

I do think that the biological family should be left off. The family that adopted her is the real family. Anyway, that is just my personal opinion though. I understand it's important to your mom to list them.

What about honored guest?

I agree that seems to be the best fit so far. It's not really a "diss" to them and they are still getting a recognition. I'm just not good at wording things and a friend is doing our programs so she wouldn't know how to list it either. So, this is really all upon me!

I agree with Jennifer. I think its pretty unfair to your mother's family to include her birth parents. But adoption is very personal, everyone deals with it differently, so to each their own. Just my feelings.

I like the "honored guest" suggestion. You could also just include a brief acknowledgement, without stating the relationship: Special thanks to NameName for help in planning our special day.

Thanks everyone!!