Hi everyone. I need a little help. I was adopted when I was 2 weeks old and my adoptive family is all I know. In 2012, I reunited with my biological father, maternal grandparents, and a maternal half-sister. My bio mother passed away when I was 6 and there will be a mention of her at the ceremony. My adoptive parents have requested an homage to her as they are grateful for her and maintained contact with her until she died.
My bio father, however, is extremely jealous of my dad because "he never got to be a dad". He has 3 daughters, myself and 2 others. He's had 3 chances to be a father and he's blown all of them. We talk occasionally, but it always ends up with me in tears. I shudder to think what my life would've been like if he had raised me. My maternal bio family is great and they're thrilled to be a part of the wedding. My fiance gets a long with them great. My fiance can't stand my bio father but he puts up with it even though my bio father has not earned his respect. I feel guilty not inviting my bio father to the wedding. My dad has stated that my bio father cannot walk me down the aisle, cannot have the father/daughter dance, which I don't want either way.
It's borderline toxic but I can't shake it. I don't want him to cause a scene even though I don't think he will, but I don't want to take a chance of him ruining it. I don't want that to be my biggest memory of the happiest day of my life. Do I invite him to just the reception? Or both the ceremony and reception, just don't give him a role? Any thoughts?
