Bio dad wore white.. Vent

Even though he was as wrong as 2 left 🧤s, I believe that he may have been trying to distinguish himself as “Father of the 👰).

You looked happy and lovely on your day.

Congratulations!

Try to calm down before you try to express your feelings.

Idc who raises a child, the Bio Dad sometimes will still have the “that’s my seed” mentality.

I can definitely understand your feelings but I don't see anything wrong with him wearing white. I can see if maybe his wife wore a white dress but he was fine. He probably thought he was dressing up for his daughters wedding and didn't think anything else about it. And you never know his wife may have said to him not to wear that so you can't be mad at her. And you can't be made that you invited your own brothers and sisters because your bio dad didn't pay. But congrats on tour marriage you were beautiful

Oh, we got ⬜️👔s for all of the 🕺🏼s participating in the Wedding.

It didn’t phase me at all. I do believe that I had requested another color so that the color scheme wouldn’t look off.

However, I’m not wearing a ⬜️👗.

Unless you feel it’s absolutely necessary, I wouldn’t say anything at all. It seems you have found some closure as far as your bio father goes, so you don’t really need to indulge in it any further. If you are going to just let that relationship go, what benefit will you get from engaging with him and telling him how he’s upset you. Based on what you’ve said, I would think you’ve said similar things to him before and there has been no change. I wouldn’t want to have to deal with the drama or argument or excuses for a relationship I don’t care about anymore. You are completely entitled to say whatever you want to him, but I would advise you to consider the hurt it may cause you if you approach him with something he’s not going to want to hear. Congratulations on your wedding. You looked stunning, and the happiness on your face when you looked at your new husband is heartwarming (which is the opposite look of you with your dad).

First off you look stunning.
Secondly I see what you’re saying... I would be livid.
I get where you’re coming from and that was so big of you to even invite him. I have no contact with my bio dad or my ex step-dad. Yet step father feels need to k ow everything about my wedding and he’s actually not allowing my siblings to go (in his words “cause I’m not invited”) I will say. As much as you may want to yell, scream, and cuss him. It may just be worth it to fully just cut him out. Write a letter tonight or whenever you have a chance and say everything you want to say. Say how mad and disgusted you are. Get it all off your chest... then wait a few days and decide if you actually want to send it or not. If you don’t want to send it then don’t, if you do then send it. No return address or anything. Just cut him out... I was so mad at the way my ex-step dad was acting the “father complex” is a lot like “god complex” it made me hate him so much. I wrote a letter and didn’t ever send it. I knew it wouldn’t do any good cause there is always an excuse with him(or beating me down to look like the bad guy). Now he is blocked from all social media and in my phone so he can’t call or text me.
I hope this helps and brings you peace💕
you look stunning in those pics and I can’t wait to see the rest!
Good luck 😊

It seems like it’s less about the color he chose and more about the hurt and the disrespect that you feel from him. Sometimes you have to leave people where you found them. Because they WILL suck ever ounce of happiness from you. I’m sorry that happened on your special day. You looked beautiful.

I agree he kind of sucks for wearing a suit like that. It looks like a grooms outfit so I completely understand why it makes you upset. I doubt it was a malicious reason, he just wanted acknowledgment as being father of the bride. Only you can decide if this is worth talking to him about.

There has never been any prohibition against the guests or family men wearing white. Usually, 80 percent of the guest or family men at least wear black or gray, and the groom and wedding party are also in black or gray. Why should he should avoid what the groom is wearing? The prohibition is only against a woman wearing a white formal dress that looks bridal. Women can wear white, ivory, or cream if the outfit does not look like a bridal dress ( like a guest in a dressy white pants suit if bride in a ball gown.) But many guest men usually wear the same colors as the groom. Whatever the color. My groom wore navy. So did almost a third of the guest men. The wedding I went to last weekend, the groom wore a black suit. So did more than half of the men. You cannot arbitrarily expect your family or guests to think they must be different from the groom, when it is usually considered okay for men to wear the same color, and formality, as the groom .

You look absolutely stunning. Sorry to hear about your troubles. Your wedding day looked like it was beautiful.

I'm really sorry that this happened and has upset you so much.

You looked absolutely beautiful on your wedding day. Congratulations to both you and your new husband. I hope that you still had a wonderful day

Say something or not but we can all tell who the groom is by looking at his smile when his gorgeous bride is next to him. No one can take that away from him or you. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Some people will always be petty

I honestly don't see a problem with his outfit. He doesn't look like a groom. If it was a woman wearing a white dress with a train and a wedding style I could see being upset. It almost seems like you want a reason to be upset with him. He seems like he was making an effort and wanting to be in pics with your kids. Maybe that's him trying to be a part of your life. I didn't know you had to help financially to be allowed to be in pictures. He came to your wedding to support you. Do you not see that aspect at all?

For those who want to comment on the fact that oh he doesn't like like a groom, YES HE DOES. I've gotten this comment for multiple people, and there are a lot of people who afterwards felt the same.

He stole 20 minutes of my photographer's time and causes is not to get all of the photos we needed because he lined up all of his side of the family and took photos (my photographer didn't know, the coordinator was trying to get us situated and the guests into the reception). None of those family pics included me or my husband and kids.

He tried hiting on my mother in law (with his wife in attendance) until she gave him that look like don't even try me.

He also asked me specifically what color I was wearing the morning of the wedding, not even remembering I sent him pics of me in my dress.

Also, the icing on the cake is when he called me AND ASKED was I mad at him about something, I RESPECTFULLY told him that I was bothered by the fact that he wore white. I didn't mention it, but considering he's been married 3 TIMES, you would think he knew not to do this.

His response?
"Oh I'm sorry you felt that way!"
"I wore what I wanted to wear". (At this point yelling and cursing)


And when I told him no one should wear white The bride, he felt the need to tell me "you ain't supposed to wear white if you ain't a fu(kin virgin".

I told him I'm done because you aren't going to talk to me that way, we have nothing to talk about. He kept on yelling and then hung up on me.

It is what it is. There's a lot of stuff I could be upset with but I chose to have a problem with it because my dad has never been there when he was supposed to be. High school graduation, for my kids, no memorable event ever. I'm moreso mad I wasted seats on him but I wouldn't have had my siblings, which isn't be to me because he's the reason why we aren't close.

He didn't come to support me. He came to flap his peacock feathers and when he started getting questions as to why he wasn't giving me away, he more than likely got spiteful.

It's over with me trying to have a relationship with him. My real dad is the man who stayed up to 3am cooking for for the wedding, helped to pay for it, and was nothing but there for me from the time he entered my life.