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Constanza
Just Said Yes September 2019

Bio Dad + Step Dad

Constanza, on December 21, 2018 at 3:37 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7
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So my biological Dad and Mom were never together. My Step-Dad is who I consider my Father and has raised me my whole life. He is the one I want to walk me down the isle and have the Father-Bride dance with.

The tricky part is that I still see my biological Dad and his side of the family a few times a year. He is a good guy but has never contributed financially or has been a father figure in my life. Him and his side of the family is invited to the wedding. He has not offered to help with any aspect of the wedding.

Should I include him in any special way? How do I not hurt anyone's feelings? It would be a dis to my Step-Dad to have my biological Dad to walk me down the isle. It feels like such a confusing situation! Smiley sad

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Latest activity by Constanza, on December 22, 2018 at 1:27 PM
  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    You should have your step dad be the one to walk you down the aisle. Your wedding is not a time to do things that you don’t want just to cater to others emotions. Your dad is an adult and will be okay.
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  • Summerbride77
    VIP July 2019
    Summerbride77 ·
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    Completely agree with this.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    If your dad wanted to be honored at your wedding, he should have acted like a parent in the first place. Don't hurt the person who raised you just to spare your biological father's feelings.

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  • Kenisha
    Champion June 2019
    Kenisha ·
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    Have your stepdad walk you down the aisle & do the father daughter dance.
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  • C
    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    Not 100% the same, but.
    I know someone who was adopted in her teenage years. Her adopted parents, who are called her parents (mom and dad), paid for the wedding. Dad walked her down the isle and shared the father/daughter dance.
    Her biological parents were in attendance as she still has a relationship with them. I think she took a picture with them and that was about it.
    I think your step dad should walk you and have the dance.
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  • Pia
    Super May 2021
    Pia ·
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    You should have your step father walk you. But consider this .... have your biological father walk you into the venue hallway , THEN hand you over to your stepfather to walk you the rest of the way and to your awaiting groom. Your biological dad is participating in the nuptials and honored as father for the first part of your life (birth) . Good luck!
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  • Constanza
    Just Said Yes September 2019
    Constanza ·
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    Thanks for the insight, ladies! Helps with what I was already feeling in my gut.

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