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Big wedding or elopement style???

Dallas, on March 6, 2020 at 8:14 AM Posted in Planning 0 8

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My fiancé and I have been taking about the big dream wedding for a few months now but I just realized last week that if we have this dream wedding of mine I will not have bridesmaids or a MOH. Hell I don’t even have anyone to be with me the morning before to get ready and stuff besides His mom! So now I’m feeling a wedding is out the question because he wants to invite about 80 people all his friends and family and I will be inviting 3 people which are just an aunt and cousins.
So my question is am I being silly for just wanting to go to the courthouse Or a simple ceremony at the lake just me and him and having a cookout at our home to celebrate later but that means no dress favors etc. It’s all sinking in that I don’t have anyone in my life besides him.

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Latest activity by Alys, on March 6, 2020 at 5:16 PM

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Elizabeth · on March 6, 2020 at 8:22 AM
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I'm sorry you're going through such an important step in your life alone, there's nothing wrong with having a small private ceremony! You just have to both be on the same page and agree to something that works for both of you. How long have you been dating? Aren't you close with any of his friends and family?
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null · on March 6, 2020 at 8:23 AM
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You're not silly for not wanting a big wedding, but you also have to take into consideration that it sounds like your fiancé does want a big wedding. Especially considering he has so many close friends and family, I can imagine it might be upsetting for him to not have those people witness his wedding day. The two of you just need to sit down and find a compromise that you're both happy with. I also wouldn't be concerned about not having a bridal party or a lot of guests from your side. Your wedding is about the two of you coming together as a family and you becoming a part of his family. His guests are your guests too
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Dallas · on March 6, 2020 at 8:37 AM
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You are right! It just feels a weird to me not having but handful or less people there for me. I’m sorta close with his sister that’s it.
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Michelle · on March 6, 2020 at 9:06 AM
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It’s not simple at all. Planning is very stressful, I sort of wish we had not gone this route lol.
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Michelle · on March 6, 2020 at 9:06 AM
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Silly* not simple lol.
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Melle · on March 6, 2020 at 10:46 AM
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It’s not silly. I’ve a friend that’s going thru the same thing where she realizes she doesn’t have many people compared to her fiancé. Just remember that this is a chance for you to get to also know the people in his life and it sounds like he would want to celebrate with everyone
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Nefetera · on March 6, 2020 at 10:47 AM
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You guys still can have a big wedding without a wedding party it can happen. That was my goal initially however later down the line my cuzin,friends ask to be in it and we took it from there. My husband is similar to you only will have anout 5 guest the rest is my family...eitherway itll work out for you both depending how you feel about it
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Alys · on March 6, 2020 at 5:16 PM
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You can totally have a small private ceremony and have a larger 80 person reception afterwards. I’ve been to several weddings where the ceremony was about 20-30 people total and then the reception was 200-300. Just tell your fiancé you understand his desire to celebrate with all his friends and family but want the ceremony itself to be intimate and you would really prefer it because you don’t have as many guests of your own to invite.
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