Big or small? Sooner or later?

I think this is a decision you two will really need to make on your own. My recommendation would be to think about what you want your wedding to look like. Do you think you’d be happy and not look back with regret with a smaller guest list?

Yeah that’s a decision you and FH have to figure out on your own. Food for thought: What’s more important to you guys right now in this moment; a big wedding or your future goals? It’s ok if either one is more important than the other, and it’s ok if they’re both equally important to you. My FH and I also have some goals, but for us having a wedding where we can have all of friends and family there is very important to us as well. So we rescheduled out to 2022 which gives us the space to start working on our goals and pay for a wedding at the same time.

Personally I'm a fan of smaller / intimate weddings. Our wedding has about 50 people and that's just because we opened it up to having close friends included otherwise we would've been at about 25 with just immediate family (mostly his). In an ideal world it would've been just his parents, my mom and his son. But I compromised and I'm happy with our decision. I definitely don't want it larger than what we currently have.

And like you, we already have a home, and everything we need so it's really just a celebration with our family and friends.

Since all of our friends and family are from different states than where we currently live, we were able to keep our guest list to 60 since we didn’t have to invite the full extended family and family friends, etc.
All of my guests are family (first branch only) and most of his are friends besides his immediate family. My only friends are my bridesmaids and I didn’t invite any coworkers or people from organizations I belong to.
I never wanted a huge wedding. The thought of over 75 people freaked me out. Then the pricing for it came in and solidified the plan. He keeps trying to add people (read as coworkers and their spouses) to the list and while we have time until invites need to go out, if all these people come, we’re not going to be able to afford it. Plus, I ordered our invites before he started adding people to our guest list, so I don’t even know if we’ll have enough invites now 🤦🏼‍♀️

View Quoted Comment We have a big family in both sides, and they both live in the area, which makes it hard to choose who to invite and who not to.
Adding people last minute always happens and it can become dangerous (increasing costs). So I say invite as many as your invites allow and keep it at that. Good luck!

It is nice to have a smaller intimate wedding due to covid but it also comes with risks. Risk of someone contracting covid. Risk of someone you really want to be there not coming (especially elderly family members). If it were me, I would never choose to be a covid bride and would get married as far out as possible and keep the guest list small and not use covid as an excuse but just that you want a small intimate wedding because it's your wedding and you can have what you want