bff backed out of the bridal party.

That’s too bad, I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’ve always believed that people’s true colors come out when you have an event. Don’t get me wrong, she could in fact be super stressed out and have too many things on her plate. Unfortunately, brides focus too much on how close they are to the person they ask to be in their bridal party and sometimes forget to consider how reliable and mature the person is.

Suffering from anxiety can be very brutal and is some times hard for people without anxiety to understand- it usually isn’t easy to explain to others. Instead of being disappointed, try to be proud of your friend for being so honest with you. I spent so much time doing things that made me anxious and always ended up so miserable. For example, my friends bachelorette party have me severe anxiety because I didn’t know anyone but the bride. I went anyway and was miserable and made such a bad first impression. It’s been a few years and I still regret going when I knew I wasn’t able to enjoy it. Finally being able to voice my anxiety to friends has been a big turning point. It’s important for me to let them know when something will be hard for me or is something i just can’t push through and do. If your friend is anything like me, the fact that she was honest with you says so much about your friendship.

When I was MOH for my best friend my life was pretty much in shambles. Save for the first portion of this year it was the worst period in my life. My mom was very ill and would not allow me to tell anyone so I was her sole caregiver, she was in and out of the hospital, I was working full time in a VERY stressful job with on call responsibilities and I was going back to school part time at the same time. The week before her bachelorette party I got in a car accident and totaled my car, I didn’t have the money to buy a new one and needed one not just for work and my mom but also because I was the bride’s ride to her party. Her party was expensive and I had budgeted just enough for it but with my accident, I couldn’t afford it and had to drop out of some of the plans. Imagine sitting with a bunch of girls who don’t know you, make no effort to know you and they are all getting spa services while you sit in the waiting room - it may not sound like a big deal but it was awful to experience. Her bridal party was not welcoming to me - the rest of the girls were the wives of fiancés of her fiance’s Friends so we did not know each other.

I was a wreck. I still tried but her party sucked and it was mostly because of my inability to organize things well. I cried the whole drive to pick her up because I just couldn’t get myself together.... I was TWO HOURS late picking her up. It was awful.

She did not kick me out or treat me less than. She knew all I was dealing with and was patient and loving with me. Our friendship survives because I pulled it together for the wedding and was a good MOH for the rest of her planning and because she did not treat me as a disappointed bride but as a concerned friend.

I’m sorry you’re owing through this, but I hope that she recognizes how supportive you are being and let’s you help her still be in the wedding.

I’ve been there and she knows it because she went on that ride with me. So I’m trying to be a good friend by understanding. She has gone to all of my events except for the wedding so it’s harder to digest but I’ve learned fo accept and we are friends.

Oh and she knows all of the bridesmaids. We all are friends in this party