Beyond stressed...

I get so stressed and I’m an over thinker so I will just literally think about it until I am beyond upset. I have taken days off. Like days where I didn't think about it. But I’ve also had days where I made a realistic list of stuff to get done and did them, some times I got them done and a few tasks I had for the next day too.
Talk about being stressed to friends/ your fiancé. Soak your feet. Take a hot bath. Plan out a few days of tasks with realistic goals.
You got this it’s gonna be okay. Everything will be perfect I promise. 💕

Yea wedding planning can be overwhelming. It's such a large event and we have this idea in our mind as brides that we want it to be perfect.
Take a break when you need it.

No, I don’t have the same issue. I knew beforehand that I couldn’t handle wedding stress. We are leaning towards Eloping.

I think the best way to attack stressors is to sit and look at what is it that is stressful. Make a list if you need to. Then, look at each thing that is stressing you and ask yourself which of these things can I directly control? The things you can do nothing to control are the things you must let go. The things you can control will allow you to decide how to adjust to reduce the stress. Example: I cannot control a vendor who doesn't show up. I can control having a back up plan. If my photog doesn't show, I can have my guests help take pictures. Does it suck? Sure, but it might happen and at least I'll have pictures. You just have to have faith that you made good decisions.

You can't control other people, but you can control your reactions, boundaries, and preparation. So, maybe try to figure out what is stressing you and how much of that is actually in your control to reduce it.

Stressed out
don’t do it
suppose to be a happy time planning your wedding nothing is stressful unless you make it stressful

Remember that the details aren't as important, the big picture is most important. Drink water, don't do wedding planning before bed. Be sure to get rest.

I understand completely. I personally have realized outside people make me more stressed. Like their lack of help or even just encouragement and excitement . I have done everything by myself . My FH has helped with listening to me talk about the problems and that helps . Money is the most stressful part for me because I just want to spend smart and not over do it. So I make lots of realistic budgets . Ironically planning calms me down the more I realistically plan out EVERYTHING the better I feel .

Its going to be ok if you have the big things taken care of just let everything else fall in place bc it’s not worth the stress honestly . Our marriages are more important than the wedding . So take a deep breath and focus on marrying you FH . Let everything else work itself out . Here for you! 😊

You can't control other people and how they think. You can only do that for yourself. If you're feeling overwhelmed, use some coping skills. Take a break from it for a day or two. Make a list and check things off. Plan/Do something wedding related that does not elicit a negative emotional response and work up to things that cause more of a stress response once you feel accomplished with the smaller stuff.

Set certain days in the week that are wedding planning free. That should give you a day or two to destress. If something is overwhelming and you can get a family member or friend to help, let them.

Guarantee you're overthinking it because I do it all the time. You're probably super worried about x,y,z, person or little details. Don't be nobody is going to notice little things and people who can't relax and be happy for you and your spouse are always going to be unhappy no matter what you do and shouldn't bother coming.

Everyone deals with things differently and that’s ok. I can identify with what you’re feeling. All I can say is that I am still figuring out how to manage it. My fiancé and I are also using this process as a means to learn how we each approach tasks differently and how to adjust. My take is that this wedding is just one of a billion new experiences happening in life all at once and it can be overwhelming. What I’m trying to do is decide what “good enough” looks like for us and this wedding. Then, I’m working on carving out time on a consistent basis to simply enjoy being engaged and spending intentional time with my fiancé. At the end of the day, I care less about the wedding which is one day, and I care so much more about enjoying this new life we are embarking on. Hang in there and know that what you are feeling is normal. Your day will be beautiful because you both are there! I wish you continued luck.

Definitely set aside a few days a week to do nothing wedding related (hard, I know! My brain was constantly going even on off days).
My mom always says "If you and your SO can get through planning a wedding and not loathe each other at the end, then your marriage is off to a solid start!"
It was a good thought to keep in the back of my mind. That it's just a tool to build our compromising and a strong foundation.