Best theme or idea for a non-registry bridal shower

Are you trying to be funny?

Seriously, I'm not sure anymore.

I'm actually serious. I said 'theme' or 'pot luck get together'. Not actually having people give me just cash at my bridal shower.

So...you just want to plan a party?

Best advice to you- scratch the honeymoon registry and scratch the potluck idea.

As far as generally accepted etiquette, Sarah M. pretty much covered it.

I agree that if you aren't registering for/asking for gifts then there's no point in having a shower. However, something like a "Recipe Shower" could work maybe? Do you cook? Your guests could be asked to bring their favorite family recipe for you to build a new cookbook perhaps. I've also seen people do lingerie showers, but I guess for that you'd have to be comfortable with the hosts giving out your sizes and also opening sexy things in front of all your guests too.

ETA: forgot to add that I agree with others as well...you shouldn't be hosting your own shower. Sorry if you aren't, but the posts sort of sound that way.

Registry info never goes anywhere near wedding invitations. A separate card is still tacky. You can put your wedding website on a card, and have your registry linked on there, but that's it.

You don't really "get" a shower if you don't have a registry. There's no point, since you don't want physical gifts and it is a purely gift-giving event. You also can't plan your own shower. I would suggest having a BBQ with close friends and family, or you could have a girl's luncheon/brunch, but calling it a shower implies gifts. You could host those events if you do not call them showers.

What Sarak K. Said ^^^^^^

Asking for money even in a roundabout way is considered impolite--most people will disagree with the Disney Honeymoons registry.

Regardless of your choice, the question is about how to handle a shower with no gifts. It's kind of like the baby showers where they ask you to bring a book instead of a gift. I don't mind a themed shower as long as the theme isn't incredibly expensive; it could be a "bring your favorite recipe to share with the bride" shower, or a kitchen item shower, etc. A "good luck potluck" is cute but you'd need to word it clearly so that people know they don't need to bring a gift, just a dish to share. Perhaps ask them to do the potluck and bring their recipe card as the gift to the couple.

ETA: I also assumed like others that your mother or friend is throwing your shower and asked for your input in theme. You can't throw your own, of course.

Pot luck get together! Bahahahahaha!!

Ok, maybe just a get together. Thanks to those that offered the recipe ideas. I wasn't hosting my shower, just kind of helping the host with ideas in case she asks me. IMO, everyone should have the right to a registry and the right to shop at Hobby Lobby. Cause I noticed a few people judged a lady because of Hobby Lobby's "history". Not alot of people are traditional and want to be creative. anywhoo

Potluck, Disney honeyfund with invitations, and no gift registry for what sounds like a self-hosted shower?

Seriously? Are mods just testing us now?

What does Hobby Lobby have to do with it?

Sounds like you want an engagement party, not a shower.

Ummm, everyone DOES have the "right to a registry". I don't even understand the Hobby Lobby comment.

:::fades back into the darkness:::

I think the IDEAS in this post are equivalent to those of a fucktrumpet's.

Don't put inserts for registry in the invite. No to potluck. No to Honeyfunds.

What? Ignoring all the other stuff, your Hobby Lobby comment makes no sense. "Not a lot of people are traditional and want to be creative." Do you mean not many people are creative, or not many people are traditional? I'm so confused...

Thanks for the tears, everybody. I was just asking for ideas. :'(

No one has a "right" to have any party thrown for them.

What in the hell is happening?!?!?!?!

Wtf Wednesday!!!!