Best piece of Advice?

Compromise. Whether it's planning the one day party or living with each other the rest of your lives.

The best piece of advice I have gotten is to always try to be the most generous person in the marriage. Not only has it brought us closer together, but my husband (having never heard this piece of advice) naturally started reciprocating.

23 years of marriage I must say, it’s not gonna be always sunny, there are stormy days too. Marriage requires a lot of work, respect, patience, forgiving, tolerance, and love of course.

Read BAMs before! I read so many bam posts before my wedding that it calmed me down cause every bam tells you something went wrong or unexpected but that at the end of the day it doesn’t ruin your overall happiness

View Quoted Comment ❤️I’m glad I heard this early on! Yes, that is true.

View Quoted Comment That’s a wonderful idea! I like that if at least one person makes that type of effort, naturally the other will mirror it.

View Quoted Comment I don’t think that we could appreciate the sunny days without the stormy days. Its a choice. Thank you💕

View Quoted Comment What are BAMs? I’ve never heard that term before. I like that though! I’m expecting at least something to go wrong!

View Quoted Comment Wedding wire has a lot of BAMs which stand for back and married and they basically are brides who come back and recap their wedding days and a lot of them say what happened unexpectedly or what went wrong - but you realize that at the end of the day those things didn’t affect their overall happiness

View Quoted Comment Oh that’s cool!!

View Quoted Comment Thank you!

In terms of your wedding, no one will ever care as much about your wedding as you and your FS. Don’t be disappointed if others don’t seem as excited or invested as you want them to be. For them, your wedding is just another day while for you, it’s one of the most significant days of your life. Temper your expectations of those around you and you’ll be much happier.

View Quoted Comment I like that! Definitely is a big reminder. I am the oldest so I tend to think I’m important 😅.

For wedding planning: GET A WEDDING EMAIL. Like, not your personal one, because the SPAM. Also, it helps if you both have access to it, for communication purposes.

For marriage: communication, communication, communication. If you can't talk to each other, there will be massive blow-ups. (And, sometimes that happens even when you do talk to each other.)

Best advice I received is to NEVER rely on others for money towards the weddimg unless you already have the money in your bank account or the cash in your hands. Many couples have complained how they were promised thousands by family and signed contracts with venues abd vendors and then their family couldn't come through with the money later. As a result, they were stuck with a venue and/or vendors which they couldn't afford.