Best Man's date

Meh. I hate when people do this. I know people that have, and I don't have any advice other than to not let it get to you. Sorry

It does seem a little strange, but maybe she is trying to not get introduced around too much so people don't read too much into their relationship? Hope you can let it go!

While I agree it's rude, best to let it go. The day of, I bet you won't even notice.

No big deal. It's common here for people to attend the reception only. Wouldn't stress about it.

Hay date twin! Yep rude, and if it was a month or two ago I'd be upset, however, with 16 days left to go I'm at the "whatever" point!!!!! I just want this to be done. So don't worry about it, just let it go, we're going to be married in 16 days!!!!!

That does seem pretty rude to not go to the ceremony. Nonetheless, since you don't know her, you should just let it go. You've got way more important things to do a few weeks before your wedding than stress about a stranger not coming to the ceremony. As long as your family is there, that's all that matters!

I know it's common, but I still think it's super rude when people attend the reception but not the ceremony. Not knowing you isn't an excuse--you would think she'd come to these things because it's an opportunity to get to know you. I hope she at least gives you a card!

What Lisa said!

Perhaps she is on the shy side. There could be many things running through her mind, where would she sit, what would she do after the ceremony during pictures. I don't find it rude, I think she is giving him space so that he can get his best man obiligations taken care of. Think of it this way, would you rather have her being needy and clingy and wanting to be in all of your pictures? She could be a diamond in the rough

I have done this - yes ladies, I am sorry.

When I was in my early 20's, several of my friends got married in churches. I was SO NERVOUS about walking into a church by myself because I was afraid someone would make me take communion, or I would get stuck sitting next to someones crazy uncle, or something weird would go down that I was not accustomed to, or worse yet I would walk in and not recognize anyone and I would freak out that I was in the wrong church. Ridiculous, yes, but that was my fear.

As a result, would come WITH A GIFT OF COURSE to the reception, and NOT stick around for very long. Just long enough to say congrats to the bride and mosey on out of there.

I think its totally rude too, expecially since hes the best man!! we arent giving people an option to bring someone who are not dating anyone. i have two of my maids who are not dating anyone but "seeing" someone and im not making my parents pay for someone else when who knows if they are even going to actually end up dating. expecially when its $150 per person!! But if you already gave him that option i guess even though i would think its very rude and be kinda mad too you would have to just let it go.

Our Best Man's GF is a total nutcase...I'm hoping she doesn't show to our Ceremony AND reception.

Another thing I probably should have mentioned - They are from our of town and will be staying in the hotel the night of Friday and Saturday, so I'm not sure what she will be doing while he is with us. Sitting in the hotel room? I think that's why it's so weird to me.

That is really freaking weird and rude that she wont be with him expecially since shes staying with him the whole weekend!!! makes no sense

My guess is that she would just feel awkward sitting alone in the ceremony and then wouldn't know what to do while you all are taking pictures.

FH did this at a wedding I was in last summer. But there was a 2 hour gap and dates weren't allowed on the party bus while the wedding party drove around taking pictures. We were also from out of town, so FH just hung out with my family until it was time to meet me at the reception. I agree that in general it's rude to skip the ceremony, but sometimes it just makes more sense. And, who knows, maybe she knows someone who lives around you and is hanging out with them.

I'm just going to forget about it and let whatever happens happens. Just needed a sounding board for a little bit. At this point I just want to be married =)

Honestly, I can kind of see where she's coming from. While it may be rude to come to the reception but not the ceremony, for her, she'd be sitting there, being a part of a very special moment/day for someone she's never met. She wouldn't know anyone or have anyone to sit with during the ceremony. She's be forced to be there early, wait around after, and generally be that awkward person watching you all take pictures/get ready/etc.

When I had been seeing FH for about 6 months, he brought me to his sister's wedding. He was a groomsman. It was the first time meeting any of his family. I felt super awkward sitting there in the church of a faith I don't belong to watching the ceremony, being there early, staying for pictures, etc. I went, but given half a chance, I would have jumped at the opportunity to hang out in a hotel room and nap until the party started where I might actually meet people and have it be not as awkward.

Maybe she cant make it until then. He do have a plus one and I understand that yall havent met her. Dont focus on that so much. Its not gonna ruin your wedding by her not showing up for rehearsal or the ceremony. U wouldnt even notice her not there anyway for the ceremony.

Our whole thought behind having her come to the rehearsal dinner was so she could meet other people though - there are other groomsmen/bridesmaids who are bringing dates/girlfriends/boyfriends that have never met anyone else too. The rehearsal dinner will also be way less formal than the reception, so I would think it would be less awkward to meet people then, especially if they will be setting together at the reception since we are having a head table.

I really wouldn't let it get to you much....especially if she doesnt know anyone. Sitting somewhere you don't know anyone can be awkward, especially in that setting. At least with the reception, people tend to be a bit more open, and lets face it, the alcohol starts running and gives everyone liquid courage. Even if she met you and your FH before the wedding, you guys wont be around and will be busy all day, eliminating that comfort zone she created by meeting and bonding with you. I say just let it be what it is and not get upset over