Best man speech

I think you should leave that for your FH to handle.

Agreed ^

Yes it is. You don't get to "approve" someone's speech before they give it. Just have your FH casually mention to him that the speech should be kept in good taste and appropriate for the audience.

Leave this one to your FH.

Generally I would say don't ask, but I went to a wedding a few months ago and the best man's speech was very inappropriate. He told a story about the groom getting drunk and ending up in the hospital (some other inappropriate things were added in) and he bashed the bride. I was a bit in shock. To be fair this is his personality but I thought he would play nice for the speech. And I was told this was the tamed down version.

So I would say leave it to your FH to know if he can trust the guy or not.

I'm kind of in the same boat. My FH is having his brother who, while hilarious, tends to say things that are a little risqué. I plan on having a little half joking/half serious discussion of "No crude stories, no cursing". Hoping it will help!

I was asked as an MOH to have my speech pre-approved by the bride. This was in a long list of bridezilla moments. I didn't write a speech, I had (thankfully) enough public speaking experience that I could wing it. The best part was that everyone came up to me afterwards and told me what a great speech it was. My advice, don't micromanage the speeches. Your best man may do what I did and may not be able to pull it off.

Not everyone plans their speech in advance. The last time my FBIL was the best man he completely made it up on the spot. I'm sure he will do the same for our wedding.

Thanks for the advice everyone! I'll definitely talk to my FH about it, it's probably best if something is said, for him to say it. But having him pre-read the speech does seem a little too micromanage. Whatever will be will be Right?! ( :

I had a speech written out for my sisters wedding, but winged it due to nerves and still got compliments on it lol. Leave it to your FH.

Technically he can change it from the point he hears it to the reception.... so no point in this. But have your Fh mention to him to please be respectful of all the people there

I'd have FH just ask him to keep it clean.

It should be a toast, not a speech. That in and of itself should be self explanatory. If not, by all means have your fh tell him to keep it respectful.