Best Man or No Best Man??

Google best man duties -- there is a lot more behind it- it is the same as a maid of honor but for the groom! And it is also a title and privilege for a best friend. They get to sign your wedding certificate, help plan the Bachelor party, carry the rings the day off, help keep the groomsmen informed of details, fittings, meetings,a best man speech also! The grooms right hand man!

That's what I told him....he still don't believe me lol....Its like talking to a brick wall right now

There is so much more.... plans your bachelor party ,

*The best man transports the groom to the ceremony location.

*He assist the groom with dressing for the wedding, and makes sure personal items are returned tot he groom's house afterwards.

*He oversees ushers at the wedding.

*The best man carries an extra copy of the ceremony seating plan in case the ushers need to refer to it.

*The best man makes sure that the envelope with the officiant's fee is delivered after the ceremony or at the rehearsal.

*He signs the marriage certificate as a legal witness.

*During the processional he either stands at the front with the groom or proceeds ahead of the groom. He walks with the maid of honor in the recessional.

*The best man is responsible for safe keeping of the bride's wedding ring until it is time for blessing and exchange of the rings.

*He helps to organize groomsmen for formal photographs.

I knew it was way much more....and now that you lay it out like that he needs to pick a better best man!!! Not to sure that one he has is going to be there mentally for these task

The original reason was that it was considered unlucky for the groom to fight on his wedding day and the best man would step in and fight in his stead. Keep in mind this was a time when tribes would steal brides from other tribes and then had to fight to keep them.

A lot of our wedding traditions come from this. A woman is on a man's left arm so he could still fight with his right. Bridesmaids used to wear the same dress as the bride to confuse those who might try to steal the bride away.

But the Best Man still has a lot of duties... All those mentioned above by Rachele W. and more...

Kayla - I feel you on picking the better one I told my FH the same he needs some one responsible 100% that will have there back like our MOH will cause its alot task and details that come with these roles....Best of luck to you and i would school your FH on the duties..

MusicMeister u are right so much more but it was to much to type

Kayla, i am feeling the same thing. Its okay though really you will end up doing more of the best man duties minus the party and speech.

I wouldnt worry to much but right now if you are going through David's bridal for bridesmaid dresses and yours.. then mens wearhouse has a 40 dollars off each tux plus the rent 5 get 1 rental free or a free suit up to like 480 i think.

That's just how a lot of men are about these things. Typically, they just through a party, rent a tux, and show up. Everything seems to be so easy for them so that's probably why your FH doesn't see the urgency.

I had to prod mine a couple of times to make sure he asked his Bestmen and groomsmen too....

My FH was total opposite. The day we announced our engagement he called all of his guys and asked them. Well all except one only because he's afraid this guy may not be reliable. In the end he did end up asking him.

*Duties* are one thing, but what people are willing to do is another. Our best man did not do anything. But I mean literally nothing. Oh, except that he left the wedding about hour and a half early.

I think he got the picture last night ( crosses fingers) I don't know if he's waiting til we go down next week and ask them fast to face or what but I'm trying not to let it get to me! The moment he asked me I ran to my laptop and phone telling my girlfriends...I'm over the moon despite all the things I've had to deal with since telling some of my family..

I'm just going to sit back and see how long it really takes him to tell his guys!!

And ladies lets pray he doesn't pick some bums who can't give a speech or who he can't rely on!