Best Man doesn't want to give a speech

Such a bummer!!! Breathe in and out, sister. Is there someone that's close to you guys as a friend that isn't a groomsman that would be better suited for the speech? or maybe BM and groomsman tag team the speech? (if it really is a stage fright type thing?

That sucks. The person I have in mind to be my MOH has social anxiety and probably ought to do something else than give a speech, which I'm fine with; she wants to be there, which is all that matters.

I'm not sure what other words to offer than, "that sucks." I think it's pretty stupid he'd want to leave the rehearsal to go play WoW instead; it's not like the damn game is going anywhere.

Public speaking for some is extremely uncomfortable and can cause serious anxiety. Ask another close family member or just do without the speech. It will be ok. Just please don't make your friend feel bad for his choice.

I know, I guess I don't need advice, just to complain to people who get it. I've suggested FH's dad could speak, but FH would at least like to have the groomsman speak so he feels less deserted, between this and the coworker friend that'll probably no show

I understand the frustration. I just recently went to a wedding and the best man did not give a speech, because he is painfully shy. They had someone else do it. I hope another groomsman comes through for you!!

My dad is the only one giving a toast at our wedding. My MOH was relieved she didn't have to do any public speaking. You FH's BM shouldn't be forced to do something that make him uncomfortable.

I'm confused, is this at the rehearsal dinner or the actual wedding he doesn't want to give a speech. If its dinner, I'd let it slide. If its at the actually wedding, I would have your FH talk to him and ask him why. You can't force someone to do something they don't want to do. Hopefully someone else will want to give a speech instead.

Reception. He also wants to skip the rehearsal dinner and get the rehearsal itself over as fast as possible, apparently.

That's a shame. How about his father or mother instead?

As someone with social anxiety and a terrible fear of talking in front of crowds, I can understand his position. Although it is a bummer for you... he should have brought it up early on so you didn't have the expectation. My MOH already told me she'd need some liquid courage before she could think about it. My younger brother is my Man of Honor though and is used to giving speeches for work, so I'm guessing they'll either tag team it or he'll end up doing it.

Why does he have to do one at all? if someone doesn't want to, they don't have to.

Meh. That sucks. I agree with others on here though - ask someone else to give a speech if you really want one

I agree with @sarahmarie. Don't make them feel bad and let them do what they are comfortable with. You'll get over it.

I totally get your frustration. My MOH doesn't want to do a speech either.

Most people hate to make speeches and frankly, are not very good at it. Most guests don't want to listen to them either.

It's a perfect match.

I talk to a lot of BM, and many of them range the gamut from nervous to terrified.

Just skip it. No one, trust me, will be asking for it.

The last.. probably 5 weddings I've gone to haven't had speeches at all. And unless someone specifically approaches me and asks if they can give one, I probably won't have any.

Edit: FH was the best man at the one we went to most recently, and he said he had something in mind if anyone asked him to, but no one did, so we ate and danced and went home.

One of my bridesmaids will most likely do the speech instead of my MOH since my MOH is my teenage daughter and has zero interest in doing one.

We aren't doing any speeches

I didnt ask our BM or MOH because I have social anxiety really bad and would not want to be asked or forced. So I'm not asking anything of them that I would not be ok with doing at their weddings. My mom is going to say a few words I think but that's because she seems to think it's a must have.

I wouldn't press it. My dad didn't want to make a speech and I certainly didn't make him. My mom kept telling him he had to but I pulled him aside and told him he didn't have to do anything he didn't want to. He didn't and nobody cared. I'm with him though. Public speaking is the worst.