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Just Said Yes November 2018

Best Man - Brother or Father

Diessl, on March 15, 2018 at 10:48 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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Hi - I am thinking of making my dad as the best man and my brother as the lead groomsman however I’m worried my brother may feel left out or second fiddle. To me the best man signs our marriage and I think that’d be special and my brother handles the bachelor party etc. he’s also younger then me (22) so some of the best man roles such as coordinating dinners etc I think would be better with my dad. I feel good about my choice but am slightly worried how my brother will take it. Thoughts?

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Latest activity by PrincessLawrence, on March 16, 2018 at 1:42 PM

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Daria · on March 15, 2018 at 10:55 PM
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Typically a groom would choose the people that will stand for him, being Best Man and Groomsmen, and the bride will choose her bridesmaids and MOH.
Also, whoever you and your FS choose to be in your wedding party, all that they are required to do is show up on the day in the selected attire, sober enough to stand through the ceremony. Bachelor(ette) parites and dinners are not required.
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Diessl · on March 16, 2018 at 7:32 AM
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Right I get that also. But either way do you think my brother could feel bad about being groomsman not best man?
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Jamie · on March 16, 2018 at 9:15 AM
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Honestly I think (assuming you’d have them both in your wedding party regardless) it’s be awkward to have it the other way around so I’d keep it as it is. I’m sure your brother will understand, and if you’re happy... well that’s all that really matters
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Diessl · on March 16, 2018 at 9:23 AM
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Appreciate the feedback! Yeah I keep getting told do what you want it’s your wedding. But I just want to make sure feelings aren’t hurt. It’s really the only way to have my dad involved in my party so that’s how I’m making the decision.
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PrincessLawrence · on March 16, 2018 at 1:42 PM
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I think your brother will understand
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