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Josie
Savvy March 2018

Best guy friend as a bridesmaid (bridesman)?

Josie, on September 14, 2017 at 11:11 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 18

I am considering putting my best guy friend (The Will to my Grace) in my wedding as a bridesman - not a groomsman. What is the best way to do this? I don't want him walking arm & arm down the aisle with a groomsman like the bridesmaids but I don't want to single him out either. We are having a formal catholic wedding & I've considered having just as an usher and reader but I truly want him standing beside me. Any suggestions?

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Latest activity by Unawarepandabear, on September 18, 2017 at 9:43 AM
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    VIP October 2017
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    Don't have the BM and GM process together. Boom. No arm-linking necessary.

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  • Spaghetti
    VIP November 2018
    Spaghetti ·
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    You can also have the groomsmen already standing at the front or walk in from the side if there's a chapel or other room.

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  • Carousel
    VIP October 2017
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    Spaghetti said what I was too lazy to fully type out at first.

    Typically the groom and his party are already at the altar as the processional starts. They either walk up with the officiant, or enter from the side, or just stay up front when they are finished acting as ushers (some weddings the GM are also the ushers, others not).

    For the recessional, people are typically paired off but you could have them "zipper" and walk down single file (GM, BM, GM, BM etc).

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  • I
    Beginner November 2017
    Irielle ·
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    My boyfriend who is a female. She dresses like a man. I asked her to wear a dress. She had no problem. When she went to try it on I was like tux. So my bestfriend for 25 years will stand as my maid of honor in a blush tux. My matron will be in a blush dress. I think this will be so cute. I can't wait

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  • Michelle
    Devoted October 2017
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    Definitely make him a bridesman! We're having a Catholic ceremony and my bridesman will be walking down with my bridesmaid and MOH. The groomsmen will have already walked down followed by the groom and his parents.

    With the recessional, he'll walk along side one of the groomsmen.

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  • Rosered
    Devoted January 2019
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    I personally like it when everyone walks separately. But if you want them to walk as pairs, the guys can just walk side by side without linking arms.

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  • StPaulGal
    Master July 2017
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    My MOH was my best friend, who happens to be a man. Nobody linked arms. Our processional went: officiant, groomsmen (he didn't have a best man), H with his dad, bridesmaids, MOH, me with my parents. When it was over we did the zipper (alternating single file exist.)

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  • FutureMrs.D
    Dedicated October 2017
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    I have a man of honor (my Son) and my FH has groomswomens so we are all mixed up! It's your day have who you want.

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  • Lauren
    Expert September 2024
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    My brother is my best man!! My side consists of him and two girls; FH's side consists of three guys. I am having everyone walk up and down the aisle separately. During their entrance, they are coming in as one group.

    You could always have two girls walk with him, one on each arm or do what I'm doing and have everyone be alone.

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  • Danielle
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    As PP have said, the groom's party can enter before the bridal party up the aisle or from the side. The sides don't need to join arms during the recessional but just walk next to each other.

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  • thyia
    Super August 2018
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    Yah I don't think they have to link arms and I feel weird making them do so since most won't even know each other more than a day before if not right before the processional. so, there are many ways around it! just pick one and go with it. I'd steer clear of communicating that it was because of your bridesman though..

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  • Soon2BaSMITH
    Savvy October 2017
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    I would just let him walk with one of the bridesmaids and a groomsmen. So same difference if two men escort 1 woman. Just two will be going on your side

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  • JurassicBride
    Dedicated July 2018
    JurassicBride ·
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    I am having my best guy friend as my man of honor!

    As of right now I think my side will walk down individually and the groomsmen up front already

    BUT

    If for whatever reason we end up "coupling up" the couples do even out...cause I have more on my side

    Maid & man of honor

    Bm and best man

    Bm/gm

    Bm/gm

    Bm/gm

    Bm/gm

    Bm/gm

    Jbm/jgm

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  • Beachy
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    The guys dont even have to process down the aisle (FHs guys). Then when your processional starts, all of your people do alone. When they leave, they can have Man of honor go next to but not linking arms with BM and then the others, if they so wish, can.

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  • CarrieLynn
    Expert December 2017
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    How many BMs/gms?

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  • K
    Dedicated June 2018
    Katherine ·
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    A friend had them in a suit on her side and had the groomsmen walk in all together. Then him. Then the bridesmaids each. Then her. It looked great.

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  • BlushingBride
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    All the guys on your grooms side can walk down as a group and then have your side walk down individually before you.

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    Just Said Yes September 2017
    Nathan&Andrea ·
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    My FH has a groomswoman in his bridal party. She is totally into it and wearing what the boys r wearing, vest and tie and pants, but with heels. We decided to have all of his party walk grandparents and mothers in and stand at the front then my ladies will walk down by themselves.

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