Best Friends Wedding

Yes this is completely unreasonable of her. To me, telling someone you don’t like their fiancé is basically friendship ending. If you want to keep your friendship, you suck it up and accept their spouse. This isn’t just a boyfriend it’s too late to express that opinion. I can’t imagine doing this and it is reasonable of you to not come given this affront to your relationship.

This is a wedding no-no! Couples are considered a social unit and should always be invited to weddings together. You never ask people to celebrate your relationship while dismissing theirs! Your friend is being rude and uncouth. Additionally, the wedding party should always get a plus one (if not in a relationship). So she is being doubly rude. Beyond invitation etiquette though is just basic friendship… and she is not being a good friend.

Not only would I be upset, I would actually consider this a friendship ending move and I wouldn’t attend the wedding/be friends with this couple anymore. It doesn’t matter if they don’t really care for him but if that’s true, they should have told you he wouldn’t be invited before you even agreed to be in the wedding.

That's very rude and I would not be okay with it. I wouldn't go. I've been on the other side of this and would have invited my best friend's fiance even though I hated him.

I would reconsider being in your friend's wedding, this is extremely rude of her. this is your fiance and while he may not be her cup of tea she is not recognizing you as a couple

This is extremely rude of your friend. If it were me, I'd reconsider being in the wedding party and probably not even attend the wedding. This would also likely affect my friendship with her. She is asking you to celebrate her relationship, while insulting your relationship. Couples should always be invited as a social unit - regardless of whether they're married or not. Simply not liking him isn't a reason for them to invite you and your children, but not him.

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This. 100% this.

Goodness, I find this horrible and sorry that you’ve been put into this situation. But I don’t think a real friend would do something like that. I couldn’t imagine.

First, the fiancé is never a plus one. Significant others are automatic invites, not random strangers. Some people don’t understand that and others don’t care.


Has she said why she doesn’t like him? Is he racist, abusive, violent? Because those are the only valid reasons why a significant other would not be invited.
She is definitely in the wrong and disrespectful of the relationship you have with your fiancé which is not her place to judge. You can reach out to her and try to get more clarification, but if my best friend decided to not invite my significant other because she didn’t like him for unknown reasons, I would drop out as a bridesmaid and not attend. We would also no longer be friends at that point.

You all are just reassuring the feelings I have been having. She made me feel as if my relationship was inferior to hers. And with this I obviously can't have her in my own wedding party which is heartbreaking to me.

View Quoted Comment This all the way. I wouldn’t want to be a part of a wedding when they didn’t invite my fiancé. Have they ever voiced their concerns to you in the past? It seems odd that they wouldn’t say anything until now.

If she didn't want your fiance at the wedding, she should not have asked you to be in the wedding! Like everyone is saying, couples are automatically invited together, unless there are extenuating reasons like abusiveness or racism. If something happened recently where she doesn't feel comfortable having him there, you don't have to share that with us. But you should have a conversation with her about it. If she simply doesn't like him, then I would definitely drop out.

Significant others are automatic invites, ESPECIALLY if you’re in the wedding party. I wouldn’t even be in my friends wedding or attend

Well she’s asking for you to celebrate her relationship by disrespecting yours. Unless your FI is racist, homophobic, or violent there’s no excuse for that.

Honestly I’d drop out and not attend the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Oh my goodness, she also agreed to be in your wedding, despite the fact that she “ doesn’t care for” your fiancé? What on earth is this girl thinking?! I would let her know that you are disappointed and hurt that she invited your entire family, and excluded your fiancé, and that you feel uncomfortable and disrespected being asked to celebrate their relationship while she disrespects yours. Let her know that, under the circumstances, you do not feel it would be appropriate or genuine for you to stand in her wedding or for her to stand in yours.

That’s insane! I would no longer be apart of that wedding day. If your friend can’t except who you’re going to marry then she doesn’t deserve you

Yes I would feel indifferent.