Best friends into not so best friends

I think it's typical to have best friends, but your fiance/husband is your closest friend and the only person you don't get tired of being around. That's why you live with your husband & not your other best friends. Do you ever see your best friends alone for girl's days? Or just with your fiance?

View Quoted Comment Yes I go out with my friends for like girl dinners etc but I’m always pretty excited to leave and I feel so bad about that

I did lose a friend when I got together with my FH. We were best friends, inseparable, and then as soon as I got a boyfriend, and couldn't hang out like we used to (because now I had other plans sometimes) our relationship changed and suddenly I was the bad guy because I already had plans on a Friday night etc. (she was already married btw). In the long run, I'm much better off without her and really glad she's not here for my wedding (I was her MOH for hers).

I'm lucky in the sense that my childhood best friend is getting married six months before me, and there's no jealousy, ill will or anything like that. We're each other's MOH and it's so fun to do this with her. BUT, I'm glad I have my FH to go home to at night because he's the only one who truly knows the same feeling I do. It's his wedding too.

View Quoted Comment I wish I could like comments lol but yea I completely agree with you and understand ❤️❤️❤️

It is true that relationships change. One of my best friends is going through her own troubles right now and it's not easy to have a conversation since that is pretty much all she talks about. However, I still love her and even though I tell her that I can't always talk, I do talk to her and listen when I'm able to. She is the only person who calls me every day whether it's to talk about herself or to check up on me. She helped me get through some of my most depressing years, even though she was depressed too. We were there for each other. She is my bridesmaid.

So I guess I'm just saying that you can still be your best friend's best friend without compromising yourself or the friendship you have with her.

I feel like I most relate to this from the friends perspective. One of my best friends got married about 10 years ago and immediately settled down and started having kids (she was 7 months pregnant at the wedding now has 7 kids including a set of twins) and we just couldn’t relate to each other any more. When she would come out with us, we could all tell she didn’t really want to be there, so we stopped inviting her. She had been the person I went to for advice and support, but she didn’t want to hear about my dating drama or what me and our other friends were up to anymore. Our lives just became so different. Now that I’m the one with kids and getting married I understand her perspective better, but at the time I was pissed that she would walk away from 8 years of friendship. I feel completely blessed that my best friend and MOH is in a similar point in her life and that despite our many differences and disagreements we can share this time together. Looking back, I feel really bad for my friend going it all alone, especially since she was never close to her mom or her in-laws. I lean on my MOH and my mom a ton! The WW community is always here to share the excitement of this next chapter with you!

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OMG girl!! You just wrote that all so well!! Thank you for giving me both perspectives like that and also sharing your own experience. This is so true!!

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YES! You are right and that is exactly how she is (the part about that calls/text everyday) she does that too. She only talks about her self and sometimes leaves room for me to talk about the wedding but yea you are right I just need to just be there for her because she was there for me during my low times too.