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Just Said Yes June 2020

Best friends broke off engagement

Monica, on February 4, 2020 at 3:36 PM Posted in Planning 0 12
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Two of my very best friends from high school ended up falling in love and getting engaged. Unfortunately other issues arose, and they recently broke off their engagement. Our wedding is in 5 months, and I am torn about how I invite my two good friends. Would it be awkward or sad for them for me to invite them both separately? I do not want to upset them if they both come (obviously they would sit at different tables either way). My girlfriend is in the wedding, but I do not want to upset by guy-friend by not extending an invite as to not upset my bridesmaid. It was a mutual split, they are both very kind and reasonable people, but I don't want to upset anyone. Advice?

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Latest activity by Monica, on February 18, 2020 at 5:12 PM
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    VIP September 2020
    Willow ·
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    Invite them both separately and seat them at different tables. If you invite one but not the other it looks like you're picking sides. They're grown ups
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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I would invite them both and seat them far apart
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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    I would invite them both and let them figure it out.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I agree with PPs, invite them both. If it's too uncomfortable, either of them can decline.

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  • kymarmck
    Super March 2020
    kymarmck ·
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    I think you can invite them both! If I was the friend in the situation I would just keep my distance from my ex and have a good night and celebrate you and your marriage! Smiley smile

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  • Kaitlyn
    Devoted October 2020
    Kaitlyn ·
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    Right, invite them, obviously he could choose to not come. And if he does just sit them away from each other.
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  • Brittany
    Dedicated January 2021
    Brittany ·
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    I'd say invite both, but maybe make sure your bridesmaid has a heads up that you're planning to do this so she doesn't last minute back out over it. Remind her how both friends are important to you and you can't pick sides, but you want her comfortable if she's expected to stand with you on your big day. Since you said the break up was mutual that might not be a concern, but I think I'd like to know and mentally prepare myself if I was your female friend.
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  • Angel
    Expert August 2020
    Angel ·
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    Invite both! If they're reasonable, there's no reason why they wouldn't show or get upset.

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  • Suzie
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    Suzie ·
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    Exactly this

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  • Jordan
    Expert March 2021
    Jordan ·
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    I would invite them both and sit them separately.

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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
    Andrea ·
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    Yeah definitely invite them both, and separate them

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    Just Said Yes June 2020
    Monica ·
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    Thank you all for your help! I am going with all of your advice!

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