Best friend can't come to wedding

You shouldn't expect her to cancel one her bookings. She likely has a contract with her clients. Imagine how you would feel if you were one of those clients. I think you need to weigh what is more important your best friend who is supposed to be a bridesmaid attending your wedding or the date of your wedding. If it were me, I would want my best friend there over a date especially if I didn't book anything yet.

I would consider it asking too much for her to cancel and it may not be feasible for her anyway. When we booked our photographer or any other vendor we signed contracts. Her canceling a booking could put her at a breach of contract with potential legal implications and hurt her photography business with or without a contract. Word of mouth is powerful and her canceling could hurt her business reputation. If she’s really your best friend, do you want to ask all that of her? If your date is significant to you and your FH keep the date, but if her being there is more important to you, I’d move it if possible.

I agree with the other posters and honestly I know that your best friend of the you want her there and I would feel the exact same way but I'm not sure if it's worth changing your wedding date. The question is have you booked any venues and signed any contract because they may not be that easy just to change the date. Also, got to discussion you would need to have with your future husband as he should have a say in whether or not to change the date. Of course you want your best friend there as I want my best friend there for my elopement but at the same time I don't know if it's worth it to just change your whole wedding date to make sure she can come because what if she gets another chance at an appointment. I feel that Photography they have to take whatever they could get because they can get back-to-back clients and then have nothing for a while because Unfortunately they are not as salary or hourly based job and I'm sure for her profession she needs to take all of the clients that she can get. I would say before you consider changing any dates to discuss with your future husband first as he also has a say in that matter.

I would say in this situation it is definitely asking too much to request she cancel one of her bookings. You are essentially asking her to ruin somebody else’s wedding- just think how upset you would be as a bride if your photographer suddenly canceled on you! Besides, I am sure she has a contract that would prevent her from canceling anyway. You pretty much have two options in this situation: either choose a weekend your best friend is free, or continue with your preferred dates, knowing your best friend will not be in attendance. It really depends on which is more important to you – the date, or having your best friend at your wedding.

If you want here there you would need to change your date. She can't cancel on another bride that's devastating

Hey Laura, I'm sorry to hear your best friend won't be able to make it. I'm assuming she already was booked up prior to you choosing your date? Because if not, I'm not sure why she wouldn't of ensured that she would be free on that date to be apart of your special day! There's not much you can do unless you switch your date so that she can attend. Really sorry.

She definitely shouldn’t cancel one of her bookings. If you want her there that badly you’ll need a new date. If you don’t want to switch your date which is completely understandable, she won’t be there. I had lots of people who should have been at my wedding who weren’t, but we still got married and had a wonderful day.

I would say you can't ask her to cancel an appointment so if you really want her there you're going to need to talk to her about her availability and potentially change your date. As with most wedding stuff, photographers can book up fast so there is a chance she can black out a date for you, but it may be a little further out. Would you be open to expanding options to a Sunday wedding? There might be less of a chance she's booked on a Sunday. The only other suggestion I could make is to do something special with her separately if she is not able to attend your wedding.

That sucks but it is what it is, hopefully you can celebrate with her when you guys catch up

Thanks y’all, I hate this situation. I’m considering a Friday evening/night wedding instead of Saturday, how do people feel about that? Even still, some people will have to take off work to make it.
Sunday is out of the question. We definitely want the wedding to go into the night. Are Friday weddings a hastle for guests? Ugh I just wanna elope 😞

We have not booked anything yet, but the months we can do it are Mid Sept - Mid Nov.

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We are doing a Sunday wedding on a holiday weekend, so most people will have Monday off. People do Friday weddings all the time, though. A co-worker of mine who got married on a Friday said to me, “If people can’t take a Friday off of work with a year’s notice, then they don’t belong at my wedding.” Put things in perspective for me lol. We still went with Sunday, so we didn’t have to take more time off ourselves to prepare, but you’ll likely save money booking a Friday. I also agree with everyone else regarding your friend. That is her business, and you shouldn’t ask her to compromise that.