Best Friend Blues

That is so sweet of you to think of. but you know, i don't know if there's really anything you can do other than trying not to mention too much about it. because at the end of the day, you should be happy about planning your wedding and not feel guilty or on your tip toes around her. but like i said, you could be more mindful about not talking about it constantly perhaps?

another thing i could think of is perhaps giving her a small gift to celebrate her elopement/marriage, if you haven't done so already.

if she was a good friend, she'd want to be happy for you too that things are working for you and hope for the best for you. i mean it can be hard not to reflect on how you yourself didn't get that, but at the end of the day it is what it is and you can't go back and change their circumstances.

What Melle said is perfect. 100%

Melle made several great points. You seem like an amazing person & so sensitive. Maybe do something totally not wedding related- just you 2.

I agree with others. I would just not talk wedding related with her often.

Can you say something to your friend about how she could plan her vow renewal (even if she has not thought of it), I am thinking that could be another chance your friend can have the “wedding” she wanted to have and then she may also get excited about wedding planning related topic.

One of my best friends cancelled her big day and eloped also this past October, and I’m also moving forward with my big wedding (fingers crossed) like you. A few friends friends and I who were initially invited to their wedding are planning a surprise dinner at a nice restaurant for the couple. They’ll be 7 of us, and we can’t wait to officially do a little celebration for them. They deserve the love too!