Best and Hardest thing about being married

Best - my husband is awesome. Period.

Hardest - Combining finances. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy we are doing it, it's just hard. DH and I have very similar salaries, but he's far more financially responsible than I am. I spend way too much, so it made sense to let him handle the majority of the money and I keep a separate personal account for fun stuff. The only part that's hard is now any time I want to make a big purchase, I have to consult him. It's not like he would tell me no and it has definitely made me more cognizant of how frivolously I spend, but it was a big change.

The hardest thing for me to get used to was someone worrying about me if I wasn't home at the expected time. For 7 years I came and went as I pleased. Of course, no one would have known if I was dead in a ditch somewhere.

DH did and still does worry about me if I'm not where he expects me to be. Fortunately, with cell phones he can now track me down and feel better!

Best, everything, married life in awesome!!

Hardest, nothing really, nothing has really changed since we been married. We are already lived together, and did the whole money thing. So everything has been pretty awesome.

@BarletttoBe... DH and I sort of combined. We have a joint for things like mortgage and bills but have our own savings and checking. We still discuss big purchases (like DH wanted a new Xbox lol) but if it's like a shirt paid from our own checking, nbd!

Best - knowing that while he's always the first person on my mind, I'm always the first on his

Worst - thinking that certain things will change once we marry (he has jealous tendencies), but, of course, they haven't.

@NowASeptMrs, that's our arrangement as well. I've just always been very financially independent, so it's a new thing for me to have to discuss purchases. When we were just dating, I would never have consulted him if I wanted to buy a new car or if I wanted a ridiculously overpriced pair of shoes. It feels like having an allowance since I have a fixed amount that goes into the joint account and the rest that goes in my personal account, but I guess that kind of system of checks and balances is probably good for my impulsive nature lol.

Best: Having a partner in life. Making decisions about our future together.

Worst: Getting too comfortable. Not trying as hard to improve on things.

Best: Being with DH all the time! I love spending time with him.

Worst: Being with DH all the damn time. Haha I'm an introvert, and sometimes I just want to be alone! We're slowly learning how to give each other alone time.

@bartletttobe that's whats great about having a spouse :-) you help him be a better person and he helps you. We find someone to make us better!

@Tania and @Jenn... FH and I have gotten into the sweatpants routine. The second I get home from work, the sweatpants come on. On weekends, unless we have an event, I don't do my makeup. DH says he still thinks I look good but sometimes I feel bad I'm so lazy around him.

Best-- being a social unit-- "Sorry, Mom-- couldn't possibly cut my in-laws out of Christmas dinner. They're my family now" (or whatever). Worst? Haven't noticed one.

Best: although it all awesome I love our spontaneous date nights. We'll come home from work and randomly decide we want to go on a date night

Hardest: dealing with the "When are you having kids" question. I swear once you get married everyone expects you to pop out a kid. And since where not sure we ever want kids it makes for a pretty awkward conversation.

1. Best - The best is having the same address, seeing each every day, and sharing the same last name. Almost 2 years later I STILL look forward to seeing him every day.

2. Hardest - Remembering that I'm DH's wife and not "just" a mom. Our son is 8mo. I adore my husband so I want to love date nights again, but they're so much work (babysitters, dressing my postpartum body, being home when we told the sitter we would be). It's logistics.

Before baby the hardest part was sorting out our roles and responsibilities around the house. We started by talking about which chores each of us hated hoping the other one wouldn't mind so much. It worked out, but it was a challenge initially.

Best: Coming home to him every night after a long day of work, the mini vacations on our weekends off, and having a partner to do everything and nothing with.

Worst: Merging finances and bills while trying to change my name on everything from my professional license to my drivers license.

Best - almost everything - although we lived together beforehand and did a lot of the "merging" of things while we were engaged, it just feels so much more real and like a partnership now. Also love seeing his ring on his finger!

Worst - the whole last name situation. I still haven't taken any steps to change it legally (need to get on that!) and just getting used to having a new name!

Best: Having him! In general it's no different from when we were dating or engaged, he's still my best friend and shares the best and the hardest of life with me, but now it feels more... I don't know, solid maybe?

Worst: Coordinating two very different, geographically far families. This year we won't spend Christmas together - I'll be with my parents and he'll be with his. But when we have children that will no longer be a solution. Plus I want to spend the holidays with my husband!

We have been together for 5 years and moved in together after 6 months of dating, and bought our house together 2 1/2 years ago, so really nothing about every day life has changed, and we have already navigated families, traditions, etc. That being said, the BEST thing about being married is there is an inner peace and calm that just comes over you when you look at him and realize- that is my HUSBAND. It feels amazing, to be this team of 2. The worst is definitely having a new last name. I love my maiden name and was really sad to change my name.

Best: He's my partner in crime: he brings balance to my life and saves me from stupid decisions and cheers me on when he thinks my ideas are viable.

Hardest: We didn't live together previously and it's not a major issue for me, but he's messy. He leaves the toilet seat up sometimes, leaves his shoes out, jacket wherever. Another hard thing is I changed his name because he didn't want to make up a new last name with me (IT WAS AN AWESOME NAME...).

The best things definitely far outweigh the hard things

Best: knowing that I get to spend the rest of my life with such an amazingly awesome guy. Knowing that we are, and always will be, a team. The rest of the world recognizing the commitment we've made to each other- people definitely take your relationship more seriously when you are married.

Worst: same problem that we faced living together beforehand- balancing our work lives and personal interests/time with spending quality time together. We often get stuck in ruts where we just want to chill on our own after work, but don't really come back to each other.