It's been a rough couple of weeks watching people who previously said they were coming flake on the wedding. We had polled the family in advance on who would be able to come when and now, people who said they'd come aren't coming. Some of you might remember from some of my previous posts that we were pushed into including all the kids in the family. Well, now all those kids we were pressured to invite, are not coming ALONG with all their parents. We could have invited other people in those spots had they told us earlier but now it's too late and we can't. We are also in danger of not hitting our F&B minimum.
I am a pretty sensitive person and care a lot about others and how I treat them. I've always tried to be the best daughter, friend, cousin etc, I can be. I realize the majority of these no's are not even on my side but I'm hurt, frustrated and upset to say the least. I do know that most of the people we really care about are coming but I'm also sad that some people we really care about can't come for health reasons (which I don't blame anybody for of course).
I realize a December wedding is not the most convenient of times but we didn't have much choice due to other factors in our family and...I can't reschedule it now. Were I to do it all over, there's so many things I would have done differently. We have to push through but I could use some advice or just comforting words on how to deal with this.
1. How can we try to get our numbers up? The only way we can think of at this point is to give single friends plus ones but even then, i don't know how to bring it up. (This is the best way to hit our F&B total but obviously its too late to invite others and I know most people here are anti B-listing.)
2. How can we hit our F&B minimum otherwise? We've already added a ton of food and drinks. We're thinking about asking the venue (a hotel), if we can add other food we eat that weekend to the grand total to hit it. Anyone else try this?
3. How do I get past the disappointment and move forward? I'm at the point where I don't want to do anything wedding-related because I feel so stressed out and I can't really afford to do that considering it's next month. I've already turned off all RSVP notifications and uninstalled the app because I was taking each RSVP too hard.
I'm thrilled to marry my fiance. We're so excited but also, I think part of our excitement is just getting past this wedding and moving on with our lives. It's a terrible way to think considering how much we spent on it right?! I really do hope it'll all come together in the end.