Being "given away"

My parents are dead, so I asked my god father to walk me down the aisle. There was no "giving away," he was just walking me so I didn't have to go by myself. He sat down when I got to the front. The officiant didn't ask, "Who gives this woman away..."

He can walk you down the aisle without the officiant using the words "given away."

My mom is walking me down the aisle but she is not giving me away. She is just escorting me down by my side just like she have been doing all my life. There will be no giving away part.

You can also dance with him later.

Yea just have the officiant skip the "who gives this woman away" question. I'm being walked down the aisle by a childhood friend not because he's giving me away, more because I cry hysterically about everything and he will keep me calmer than if I were to walk alone. Our officiant won't be asking him if he's giving me away.

I would rather walk alone down the aisle, but I think it would be really upsetting to my dad.

He can still walk you down the aisle. You can skip the whole "giving away" speech. Just ask your officiant to make sure you skip that part.

I'm walking alone. I love my dad, but I've always wanted to walk myself. I hate the "giving away" too.

Would your dad be happy with just the father/daughter dance?

I wasn't too keen on this tradition either.

I still wanted to share the walking down the aisle moment with my dad. So My dad walked me down the aisle. He gave me a hug and then I walked to my new husband.

There was no words said during this time. I think I may have whispered I love you. But there was no statement made to the crowd.

My dad is super traditional and sentimental. I don't like the language around "giving away" either. My dad is walking me down the aisle, but the officiant is just going to skip the "who gives this woman away" part. Instead, he'll hug me and shake FH's hand then take his seat. Later, our officiant will say something about how important it is to us to have our family's support and example in our marriage

I actually liked the giving away. Because I did feel like marriage was really stepping out on my own. But our officiant didn't phrase it like I was property. It was more like "as we transition from those who were by her side her whole life to who will walk beside her the rest of her life" or something like that.

But you can also complete omit that, just have him walk you down and hug him and you step up to the altar or whatever with your fiancée and he sits down.

My fiance's aunt told me what she did when I brought this subject up:

She had both parents walk her down the aisle. Instead of being asked "who gives this woman away?", the parents were collectively asked "who blesses this marriage?" and they answered "we bless this marriage.". No giving away since brides are not things!

I hate the tradition of being walked down the aisle, given away, whatever you want to call it. If it means so much to both of you, he can walk you halfway like suggested. If you're totally against it, I would imagine your father would understand.

I say just let him walk you and skip the officiant saying "who gives this woman". Don't let it bother you, it's just symbolic because if something happens to you now, your parents are looked at as your go to people. Your parents are the ones who were supposed to love you, show you the ropes and take care of you. But once you're married your husband will be everything and more. So let your father have the moment. In his eyes he kind of is giving you away. He won't be the #1 man in your life. So to speak.

I never ask "who gives this woman"...

I ask each set of parents if they support their child and welcome the other person into their family.

I feel very much the same about the whole giving away thing but I'm pretty much in agreement with everyone on this. He can walk you to the alter and not necessarily give you away. He's just walking with you to your next big step in life. Ever consider having both parents walk with you? I'm not planning on it, just a thought.

My friends had both sets of parents escorting their child down the aisle. Then the officiant asked something like do you welcome this person into your family and each set answered "we do"- something like that. I thought it was great. If FHs parents were still alive we would do that, since they're not I'm just walking alone and having a father daughter dance.

My dad is walking me down the aisle, but every time I think of the term "giving me away", I burst into tears. Two weeks after the wedding, we're moving across the country for FH's job. I'm sure I'm overthinking this but I don't want my dad to feel like he's losing me

ETA no advice, just following.

FH and I live together and have a daughter already. I think we're going to skip the whole asking who gives me away and my dad will just walk me down the aisle.

As others have pointed out, you don't have to have the "giving away" wording. But I think it would be very generous of you to have your dad walk you down the aisle since it would give him pleasure. He was the first man to ever love you and you are very precious to him, so it's not really "giving you away" but escorting you to the beginning of the rest of your life.

I've said this before on another post but FH and I are walking down the aisle together. I know its not traditional.

We plan on being on different sides of the building and meeting at the door and walking in together.