Being a bride when you are not confident....

Hey Kaitlyn!
I'm the same way, I don't like being the center of attention. I'm just going to focus on my fiancee, like I did at my engagement photo shoot.

I just focused on laughing and having a good time, and I was basically able to get out of my own way and have a great time.

From what I'm told, the day goes by fast. Don't worry about anything else, other than the man of your dreams will be there beside of you, the whole day...just like he will be in life

It will be fine, breathe and just take it moment by moment.
You can do this! I have complete faith that you will be a beautiful and happy bride, on your big day! You deserve this! ❤
Congratulations!!
Ps I'm here if you need to vent about anything! I sincerely mean that.
Hugs to you!

I get nervous being the center or attention, as well. My biggest piece of advice I've been taking to heart is focus on what all the pomp and circumstance is for - you and your FH coming together in marriage and spending your lives together!

I’m definitely the same way, my fiancé keeps having to calm me down a bit. As of right now I’m actually at my screw it point. I’m done worrying about stuff. I think we just need to realize that everyone is coming because they love you. They wouldn’t change you for the world and they want to see you happy! So focus on that. No one else cares about the little things you’re fixating on.

Btw, we have the same wedding date! I hope you have a great wedding 😊

I have major stage fright, but somehow when I imagine walking down the aisle and the first dance, I imagine just the two of us. I know other people will be watching, but I'm just so excited to have those moments with him. I hope it feels that way when it happens. Just focus on the joy & intimacy of it all. You got this!

Same here, I get really hot and I can never get my words out correctly when the center of attention is on me. I'm not sure how I'm going to get through it either but as long as we focus on whats important (FH and our day) we should get through it fine.

Good Luck and Best Wishes

View Quoted Comment Thank you.

I know its totally irrational but I’m so nervous that I won’t look “good enough” or that people will be disappointed somehow. I know that’s not the point of the day but people keep talking me how “beautiful” I’m going to be and I feel a weird pressure to meet that expectation. Thank you so much for the offer to vent. ❤️

View Quoted Comment That’s what I keep reminding myself. I keep listening to our first dance song and taking deep breaths.

View Quoted Comment Wedding twins! It’s so weird because I’ve been pretty calm this whole process until last week. I don’t know if it’s just because people are mentioning the wedding more or what is setting me off but I need to just let it go.

It probably didn’t help that my final dress fitting was last night either (ahhh!)

View Quoted Comment It’s so weird because I did theater for years and work as a teacher so public speaking and that type of attention is fine. There’s something about having to accept compliments from people and look pretty that winds me up.

My fiancé can tell right off the bat when I get this way, so I know he’ll be great on the big day.

I am feeling the same way. I feel as I am going to look like a fat cow. Usually when I get my nails and toes I start to feel pretty. I think one you start your pampering getting nails hair and makeup done I think you will start feeling beautiful.

you are gorgeous already and believe me everyone will be letting you know and your FH will not be able to take his eyes off you

View Quoted Comment Fingers crossed! I just need to stop letting my own weird body image get in my way.

View Quoted Comment I tried to paint my nails tonight and my cat decided to jump on my hand. 🤦🏻‍♀️

I think pampering will help though. I’ve been picking at my nails due to the stress so they are shorter than normal and my hair is a mess. lol.

Hey, I'm going to come in here with a radically different perspective.

I'm an actor. So is DH. We *loved* being the center of attention. We thrive on it.

So, some advice from someone who seeks it out:

BREATHE. No, seriously, when you are feeling overwhelmed, start to focus on your breathing. Take a breath deep into your diaphragm, and slowly let it out. This will center you.

Remember that everyone is there *because they like you already*. This will take a lot of pressure off of you. They know you. They love you. They think you are beautiful and they are happy for you, and they are there to offer you support. Find that emotion, and ride it.

Focus on your spouse. When all else fails, just focus on his face, or hold hands, or touch him in some way. Anchor yourself that way.

Give yourself permission to go hide away for a few minutes. Do it after the ceremony, do it during cocktail hour, even duck out for a quick second during dancing. (Bonus of giving you a chance to catch your breath, cool off, and focus on your spouse, all in one go!)

View Quoted Comment You will be beautiful, because of your happiness
We all will be❤

Hi! I think this is highly normal. However, would you talk to the others the way you talked to yourself? Would you nitpick at others either? Start looking in the mirror and praising yourself for the very same things you respond negatively too. For instance, if your best friend said, "I'm chubby." Would you allow her to stick with that thought or would you say, "But, you're still beautiful?" It's all about how we start changing the words we say about ourselves. Now, I also know that's easier said than done. I call myself a pumpkin everyday but, I'm thankful for being able to marry a man that can support me emotionally when I can't support myself. He tells me I'm beautiful in my most ugliest moments. It still wows me. Don't miss out on some great memories worried about the small things that you can change and that your fiance loves about you. I really wish you the best!