Being a bride has a stigma

I try to only talk about wedding planning if I'm directly asked - I don't want to risk sounding braggy, so I definitely see what you're talking about!

It's just one more instance of sexism. Directly insulting all women is less accepted these days. So it's been converted into insulting a status that most women will have at some time or another, e.g., brides or mothers-in-law. If you say that brides are crazy or mothers-in-law are crazy, that's pretty much the same thing as saying women are crazy--but you just hope people won't call you on it.

I get this feeling too. But for me it comes between people saying "it's your wedding, do whatever you want" and "but don't do that, that's weird/nontraditional/whatever".

I almost feel embarrassed? to tell people what I'm planning for some things because I'm waiting for them to judge me. And nothing I'm doing is even crazy or weird.

I really want FH and I do do this dance (it's a slow dance from my favorite tv show. but unless you knew the show, you would just think it's a pretty dance) and my friends think it's great and VERY us, but I'm afraid that everyone else at the wedding will think it's weird.

You described the feeling perfectly and I feel that way all the time. When I bring up anything wedding related, some family members ask me questions about vendors and use it as an opportunity to criticize me and call me "extra." Two cousins were even laughing on easter and asking me if I would "go bridezilla" if they ____ and named several examples of situations that could potentially happen and it was really ridiculous and made me not want to discuss it at all amnymore. The details are fun but spending the rest of my life with my fiance is what really excites me. I don't like the way brides are treated sometimes.