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Be honest: is this too edgy for a wedding guest dress?

Josie, on May 17, 2020 at 10:10 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 18

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Hello ladies! I’m having a bit of a dilemma. I just purchased a beautiful dress with the intention of wearing it to a friend’s upcoming (tiny, pet social distancing) reception but am having second thoughts about it. We’ve been friends since elementary school so we know each other well, and she’s fairly laid-back but has very traditional views about certain things. In general, I prefer darker colors and a little bit more of a dramatic look, but looking at this dress now, I’m worried that it may read more Morticia Addams than I would like lol. This is an evening wedding at a pretty formal venue, and I know most attitudes about wearing black to weddings have changed unless it’s the MIL or someone similar, but I still don’t want to come across as trying to make a statement! Do you think it’s fine, or would you go with another gown?

Be honest: is this too edgy for a wedding guest dress? 1

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Latest activity by Jordan, on May 18, 2020 at 9:22 PM

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Hannah · on May 17, 2020 at 10:13 PM
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I think the dress is super cute! However, when is the wedding? I don't know if I'd necessarily want to wear that in the middle of July or August, but if it's during a colder season, I think it'd be great.
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Josie · on May 17, 2020 at 10:19 PM
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That’s also definitely part of the dilemma. It’s currently scheduled for June 6th, but I have my doubts that they’ll be able to have any kind of gathering by that point. Her other option for rescheduling is mid-September, when I wouldn’t feel out of place at all.
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Hannah · on May 17, 2020 at 10:21 PM
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I don't know where you're located, but I'm in NJ and mid-September can still be pretty warm. I would just worry about being too hot! Lol.
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Karla · on May 17, 2020 at 10:29 PM
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I second Hannah— it might be pretty hot with the long sleeves for a summer wedding.

However, I don’t see anything wrong with a black dress. 8 times out 10, I wear black to a wedding. 🤷🏻‍♀️
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Melle · on May 17, 2020 at 10:45 PM
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I think it’s fine especially at a formal venue
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Amanda · on May 17, 2020 at 11:46 PM
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It's pretty! And because you mentioned it's an evening wedding and it's at a formal venue, I think it's fine. But like the others said, if it's in June, it definitely gives me some pause. Maybe you could add some subtle pops of color in earrings or a necklace/other jewelry to help make it feel less dark if that's what you're most worried about.
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Nefetera · on May 18, 2020 at 5:48 AM
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I think it's fine it's formal but very classy to me
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Kimberly · on May 18, 2020 at 9:12 AM
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I agree with Amanda. You can throw in some colorful accessories to brighten up the outfit to make it more summery and cheerful. It’s a cute dress, but yeah if you are going to be outside in June the black and long sleeves might get hot. Otherwise the style is fine and I didn’t get any Morticia Adams vibes at all.
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Alythea · on May 18, 2020 at 9:22 AM
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It’s cute but it doesn’t look good for a wedding to me personality I think it’s more of a witch costume for Halloween. I would go with something else unless your friend knows you style and is fine with you wearing it.
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Kari · on May 18, 2020 at 9:34 AM
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I agree with the PP that this reminds me of Halloween themed attire, but everyone has their own personal style. If you are one of the few guests invited to a small socially distanced wedding, chances are you are pretty close to the couple and they know your style and what to expect. If you feel comfortable in it, and are just going as a guest and aren't expected to be in any formal photos, I think it would be fine to wear.

My MOH's entire wardrobe consists mostly of black clothes with some burgundy but generally dark, moody colors. Our wedding is spring colored with muted, dusky colors like dusty rose, sage green, slate blue, etc (she's wearing David's desert coral as her MOH dress) with the guys wearing navy. We had to cancel our wedding due to Covid and were considering a small ceremony with just our parents and a couple of friends in attendance and the most spring dress she had in her closet was a black dress with a faint purple paisley print. Not the look I am going for for a spring wedding, but if we did a small ceremony she would just be a guest and not in any photos at that point, so it matters far less to me she would be wearing. If you are a guest, I feel like as long as the general style is appropriate dress-code wise, you have a lot of freedom as to what you wear. In general darker colors are less noticeable than brighter ones and don't jump out in photos, so I think this would be fine for a formal wedding if it's your style and what makes you feel comfortable.
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Darla · on May 18, 2020 at 10:46 AM
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The dress itself definitely says evening dress. Personally, I think black may not be a safe choice for a wedding but I don't know what her theme is or what she's like. I'd say play it safe and go another route on this one if the answer isn't clear.
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Veronica · on May 18, 2020 at 11:26 AM
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I agree that it looks like something you'd wear for Halloween not a June or September wedding.
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Grace · on May 18, 2020 at 11:53 AM
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If you are really worried about what your friend will think, why not check with her to see if she is totally against you wearing black? If she is not, I don't see an issue with you wearing the dress (except for the June heat if outdoors). It is a beautiful dress regardless.
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Amazing · on May 18, 2020 at 12:23 PM
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Like the others are saying , It looks super adorable , reminding me of a romantic renaissance, and isnt edgy at all and for winter would be great since black blends with almost everything, just worried it would get hot, especially for summer wedding.
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Crystal · on May 18, 2020 at 1:18 PM
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I say go for it. Its 2020 and the world has changed. My wedding dress is 3/4 black and 1/4 white so your wedding guess dress is fine. Maybe add some colorful shoes or hair accessories
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Katie · on May 18, 2020 at 1:48 PM
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I think it's a beautiful dress. However for a June wedding you might really regret that. I wouldn't care if a guest came to my wedding in a dress like that. I think the only time I'd be unhappy with a guest dress is if it was all white.
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Adriana · on May 18, 2020 at 8:27 PM
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I love it! I would definitely wear it. If you’re concerned about what your friend will think I would just ask her!
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