bbq catering at a winery?

The more food option sounds like a good way to go since that will lead to fuller guests. However, one thing has me lean towards no for BBQ. Lots of BBQ is eaten with fingers and if you have a more formal wedding where people are in nice clothing, they won't appreciate eating solely with fingers and the risk of getting BBQ sauce on their nicer clothing. Personally it would feel like a tone change if I was at a formal winery wedding and dinner was BBQ. However if there was a way for you to make your wedding more casual at the winery (like more semi formal) then I say go for the BBQ.

I would go with the more formal menu at a winery if you can afford it.

I'd probably do the more formal option. However, I love BBQ. Is there a way you could "fancy up" the BBQ meal? Maybe serve it as a plated meal with nice, heavy sides, instead of a buffet or stations?

I say BBQ!

I would go with the more formal option, if you can afford it, in order to match the formality of your venue. BBQ is great for backyard style weddings, but it can be messy to eat. As a guest, I would be slightly taken aback if I showed up to a wedding at a winery wearing a nice cocktail dress to be served BBQ

BBQ! People will remember how great the food was, some may wonder about formality but it is your wedding. We are doing a pasta bar with cheesy breads and salad for our wedding. I think people will expect BBQ but it is our wedding. They are there to celebrate your big day, not there to critic your choices Ask the company to put sauce on the side, don't serve ribs, and I think it could be turned into a semi formal meal!

What are the specific menu options of each caterer? Do you have anything for vegans? Everyone says people remember whether the food was good/hot/filling or not for months/years after. They don’t remember the other details. Go for whatever is best tasting that appeal to your guests instead of the fanciest/prettiest.

I would prefer the bbq myself. It’s really not that difficult to eat in nice clothes if you have cutlery and napkins available.

I must just be a hillbilly, but I'd pick the BBQ if the food was good.

One of the top wedding planners in my area had her wedding catered by a barbecue restaurant. It wasn't a cheap or informal wedding, either.

What kind of BBQ are we talking? Are we talking Sonny's style, or Texas BBQ? The BBQ I've seen at multiple weddings (and in fact I plan to have them at my vow renewal) was Texas BBQ, like smoked brisket, that was eaten with forks.

I can honestly say that as a guest, I don't look at how things "go" with wedding venues. I would happily go to a wedding at an upscale mansion and eat pizza and cheeseburgers, in a formal gown, if the pizza and cheeseburgers were delicious.

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Agree on the delicious food choices. Guests would rather have full bellies of whatever good food there is. It doesn’t have to be fancy/exotic/fill in the blank because it’s a wedding, formal or not, especially if it’s not appetizing.

To me, BBQ at a winery seems disjointed and (while delicious) can get very messy. If you go with fork and knife options like chicken/brisket, rather than ribs, that would be better.

How about they grill filet mignon,salmon,baked potato and roasted veggies.. plated and served,right off the grill...the best of both...bbq AND formal...and a nice glass of their best vino