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Battle with the mil

Vanessa, on January 25, 2021 at 4:54 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 10

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My Mother-In-law insists that my fiancé’s little sister receives flowers at our wedding. Nothing is wrong with this, except, we decided to opt out of having a bridal party all together and the only ones to have flowers would be our parents. I feel like if I get his little sister flowers I’ll have to buy my own sisters flowers too. I already put the order in for the extra flowers... but was I wrong battling with my mother in law over this?!

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Latest activity by Samantha, on January 26, 2021 at 6:32 AM

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Amanda · on January 25, 2021 at 5:25 PM
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Personally, this isn’t the hill I’d die on. If it means a lot to her and will... shut her up... I say go for it. If you think it’ll open the door to many other requests then don’t do it. It’s YOUR wedding! Your decision! But a happy MIL can make life easier if it’s easy 😂
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Amanda · on January 25, 2021 at 5:26 PM
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** with your own sisters, would they be understanding if you just explained she kind of demanded it? Would they even really notice? Maybe you could get them all a coursage instead? That’s smaller and everyone could get one?
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Melanie · on January 25, 2021 at 5:59 PM
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Agreed with Amanda..pick your battles haha. If all she's asking for is the flower, give it to her. If she's asking for a million other things, that's another story
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Michelle · on January 25, 2021 at 6:02 PM
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Just got to LOVE MIL! That would irritate me to know end- if she wants her to have flowers then why doesn’t she buy them? I’m a little salty with current events with my FMIL so I’m having a hard time being understanding...
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Veronica · on January 25, 2021 at 6:04 PM
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Is there a reason she thinks his sister needs flowers? She isn't in the wedding so I don't see why she would need to have flowers.
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Mrs. Spring · on January 25, 2021 at 7:23 PM
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Tell her sure but to please pay for flowers for both girls
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Michelle · on January 25, 2021 at 7:54 PM
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If she wants them she can buy them
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Vanessa · on January 25, 2021 at 8:42 PM
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Well my fiancé pretty much raised his little sister as his own so they feel like she should have flowers. I don’t mind it’s just only 1 of my sisters and my BFF is helping me with planning and if anyone deserves flowers or recognition it should be them. Not the other 2 sisters not helping. Just my opinion. It cost $80 additional to have 4 corsages made for them so all 4 sisters get flowers. But I just didn’t want anyone to have flowers at all... which is why we are not having a bridal party.
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Brittany · on January 25, 2021 at 9:34 PM
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I’m petty and I’m the kind of person that thinks every hill is worth dying on because if you’re not willing to die on the hill then the trek up the mountain will kill you. That being said, for my fiancé, I have made a lot of concessions to his mother, but I force her to meet me in the middle. I’d get everyone that’s involved a flower or two just to be petty. I’d even give one to the wedding planner if it meant no one was happy.

*I wasn’t always this way, but years of dealing with my own mother and the military have made me petty.
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Samantha · on January 26, 2021 at 6:32 AM
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If no one is having flowers that’s the answer - no one gets flowers. It would be odd for one person to have flowers.
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