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I would personally feel great about getting two free drinks on the house!

I would be annoyed. You can just do beer and wine instead of hard liquor. Hire a professional bartender who can cut people off when they’ve had too much rather than trying to limit people.

View Quoted Comment After two drinks you have to pay for your own liquor.

View Quoted Comment I understand. I just don’t believe your guests should have to open their wallets at your wedding. Could you make unlimited beer and wine free and liquor cash?

View Quoted Comment Agree with Kelly.

View Quoted Comment I just wont invite entitled people. Will save thousands. My family doesn't operate that way.

View Quoted Comment Did you post this just to criticize people who feel differently than you? In my family, anything but an open bar is unheard of for ALL events- not just weddings. Even when we host holidays/birthday parties/cookouts, we provide enough beer and wine for all our guests. That doesn’t make us entitled.

View Quoted Comment Different culture I guess. My parents dont even drink nor does much of my family for religious reasons. You are entitled to your opinion of how a wedding should go....I choose not to invite ppl with that mindset to my wedding. I read your responses and decided what I want to do.

View Quoted Comment Okay. You asked if two tickets were enough and I don’t think it is. I don’t think it’s entitled to spend quite a bit of money to attend a wedding between travel, attire, and a gift and then not want to pay for a drink. For me I prioritized food and drink over everything else in the budget because I know that’s all guests care about. If you elope and don’t have guests it’s fine to do what you want but once you invite people it’s important to think of your guests. Do what you want, just sharing my opinion and experience. I wish you the best.

View Quoted Comment If it’s a religious thing or a different culture, how does it make me entitled simply because that’s not how I was raised?

View Quoted Comment I'm sorry, but am I the only one who thinks a wedding is about celebrating and supporting the bride and groom? It really threw me when you said guests shouldn't have to open their wallets at your wedding. Guests are literally expected to give gifts or money for the bride and groom. Why is it that a bride and groom are required to pay for people to get drunk?
1. Binge drinking is not good for you, so why would I want to pay for people to make an unhealthy choice and potentially make a scene at my wedding by being drunk.
2. If people are driving, they should have no more than 2 drinks anyway.
3. (And most importantly) It is not my job to please everyone else at MY OWN wedding. The wedding is about me and my future husband, not about guests wanting to be spoiled.

To the original post, you do what YOU want. You will never please everyone. It is your day and not theirs.

The topic of alcohol at weddings is so devisive. However it is one of those know your guests, know your region thing. About half the weddings I have attended have had a cash bar, in my region is is normal, I always prepare for it. There is even the occasional dry wedding.

However that being said, there are people who don't drink at all, and those who over drink... At work events we are always given 2 tickets and people walk out of there sloshed, because they get tickets from non drinkers. Not sure I would do tickets at my wedding but that is totally up to you, and regional norms. You also have to figure out how to distribute them, which is a hassle I wouldn't want.

View Quoted Comment Soft drinks , tea, water will be provided free for each person. Two tickets for alcohol beverages of the persons choice will be provided free of charge. Appetizers and cocktail hour will be provided free. If you can't come and be supportive.....I just dont want you at my wedding. Its stressful enough ....I dont need the stress of pleasing demanding ppl. I also do not want drunk ppl ruining my day. I am only inviting 50 people who can be grateful and supportive. I even cutt the bridal party out because I dont want the drama.

View Quoted Comment It's nice that your family can afford that, but that is not the case for everyone. It does make you come off as entitled when you expect that everyone will have an open bar so you don't have to pay for a drink. I'm not saying entitled as an insult, that's just really what entitled means. That you feel you're entitled to those free drinks because that is what youre used to. It is really nice that you've grown up with that luxury, but it's just important for you to understand not everyone else did.

View Quoted Comment Agree to disagree. I believe the ceremony is about you and your significant other and the reception is for your guests. This is just my experience and how most of my social circle feels. I think if you can’t afford alcohol and it isn’t important to you having a dry wedding is fine. But when someone passes the cost onto the guests is what I don’t like. We prioritized our guest experience over everything for our wedding.

View Quoted Comment I’m well aware not everyone grew up the way I did, but I don’t think providing guests with drinks at an optional party you’re hosting is a luxury. I believe it’s proper hosting. We don’t see eye to eye on that and that’s ok.

View Quoted Comment Then we just definitely don't agree because to me, the whole celebration is part of the wedding, therefore, about the bride and groom.

View Quoted Comment I understand. I think if I were you I would have a dry wedding. If you aren’t confident in a bartender cutting people off I wouldn’t go the drink ticket route because I think it creates the opportunity for non drinkers to give all their tickets to heavy drinkers.

View Quoted Comment Right, but what I'm saying is that is your lifestyle bc of how you grew up. The way you were raised is what shaped that opinion and for MANY people that is a luxury. Throughout the course of my life and my career, I have met a variety of different kinds of people from many social classes and I can promise you, paying for unlimited alcohol at a wedding is a luxury for a lot of people.

View Quoted Comment I mean, you could make that argument about anything then. You could say that because I have no student loan debt I live a life of luxury compared to many. You could say that because I send my child to private school I live a life of luxury. Or I bust my butt, work a full time job, a part time from home job, and have an FH who also works extremely hard at his job to ensure he gets promoted when given the opportunity. My parents had nothing when I was little. My dad worked 3 jobs and went to school full time to finish his degree. They still always had beer and wine for everyone at get togethers they threw.