So my mom brought up the idea of having a couples shower, I had said previously that I really didn't want a bridal shower as I have pretty bad anxiety and am not good at being the center of attention. So couples shower, that's all fine and dandy, but she would like to do a backyard/grilling/cookout thing. Is this tacky? Obviously for my wedding I would not do a cookout, but for a shower I wasn't sure.