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Kaysey
Super February 2020

Back-up Plan Confusion with Venue - Am i looking too much into it?

Kaysey, on November 17, 2019 at 6:26 PM Posted in Planning 0 8

I know this is going to be a long post, and I do apologize in advance.

This past Thursday I had a second meeting with our venue event coordinator who will be in charge of our wedding. The meeting was because I had come up with additional questions to ask her and because I have not been to the venue since we booked in at the end of May/early June. Originally on our first meeting when my FH and I toured the venue, we noticed the event space for the reception was broken up into 3 sections with large dividers; making each room a smaller ballroom. After touring the venue and sitting down with the coordinator we decided to have the ceremony out on the veranda and have our reception in 2 of the 3 sections of the ballroom b/c that would best accommodate our 150 guests. At the time we were told the other 1/3 of the ballroom would be ours to use for storage for our decoration boxes (we are doing our own decorating), or if the weather is bad the day of our wedding so we can move our ceremony from the veranda to the other section of the ballroom and still have the 2/3's set up for the reception. When I went in on Thursday she told me that option was no longer available but gave me another backup plan. She told me that she recently did a wedding where the couple could not get married outside b/c of the weather and had their ceremony in the reception space. This couple had the same number of people as my FH and I plan on having at the wedding and she showed me photos of it. It did look beautiful but it threw me off a little bit that all of their guests were sitting in their reception seats with empty plates in front of them in all of the photos from their ceremony.

I'm not sure if I just could not wrap my head around it, or if that is a different way to have a ceremony that I haven't personally seen before. I know this would only be my FH and I's backup plan if it's too cold on the day of or if it rains. Am I looking too much into it, or should I fight for the other 1/3 ballroom we were told we could use in case of bad weather originally?

Side Note: I just want to note that my coordinator at our venue was very sweet about it and has been great since day one, and she tried to talk it up to me more and help me envision it b/c I know she saw the look on my face when she said it, and I was not thrilled with the idea.


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Latest activity by Alex, on November 18, 2019 at 4:11 PM
  • Destiny
    VIP May 2020
    Destiny ·
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    I have seen it and will be doing somthing similar if it rains on our wedding day but were doing buffet style and all the plates will be over by the food also were doing picnic tables

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  • Cortney
    Devoted August 2020
    Cortney ·
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    Do you know why the situation changed? I would be upset if my venue went back on something that was said (or especially contracted) without good reason.
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  • Kaysey
    Super February 2020
    Kaysey ·
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    I’m not sure what the reason is. I do know that it is not because of another wedding. Our contract says that our event will be the only event at the venue on that day.
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  • Kaysey
    Super February 2020
    Kaysey ·
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    I think it just threw me off because I haven’t personally seen it before. The coordinator for the venue did tell me that all of the wedding guests loved it for the wedding they did it at. I know there’s only a 1% chance of us having to use that as the backup plan so I’m wondering if I should just let it go and wait until it gets closer to the wedding to deal with it if needed.
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  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
    Jeanie ·
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    I agree that sitting at a set table for the ceremony is awkward, and I wouldn’t be ok with that either. Most places will use the dance floor to set up chairs if they have to move a ceremony indoors. If you can’t use the last third as a backup space, is it now open and part of the room as a whole? I would definitely question this more, and read over what is agreed upon in your contract.
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  • Kaysey
    Super February 2020
    Kaysey ·
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    Unfortunately the contract only says what we are paying for; which is the 2 of the 3 sections of the ballroom. Because the contract does not state we were told we could use the other room as a backup, I think I may have to do more research on how it could be set up if we need to use our backup plan. I do think I might be overthinking it a little bit because I know there is only a 1% chance that we would have to use the backup plan. My FH told me not to worry about it and if we have to use the backup plan then we will discuss it further then.

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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    I have seen this before, and personally, I don't really like it. If you have round tables, people will have to turn their entire chair around to see the ceremony or sit awkward and uncomfortably turned. You also run the risk of someone accidentally knocking a piece of the dinnerware over and making a loud noise during your ceremony.

    If you decide you don't like this option, I would tell her that you were promised something else originally and that is what you expect to receive. Or, ask for another back-up option.

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  • A
    Super August 2020
    Alex ·
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    You need to find out why your backup plan can't be what was originally promised. Even a verble commitment is a contract!

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