Back up guest list!?!

I don't think it's rude. I've heard of the ABC list.

A - you MUST invite or else you will be the shame of the family and town!!!

B - you want to invite, but because of the people you MUST invite you don't have room until some from the A list decline

C - if you have the funds and can afford to add, and it would just be nice to have them (co workers, friends you haven't seen in awhile, extended relations, etc)

My ABC list is a little different

A - people who will come

B - people who may or may not come

C - people who can't come, but I have to send an invitation anyway

I have no back up list. It's all or nothing.

I think it is okay. Often it is people you want to invite, but cannot because of people you need to invite (family, etc). As long as it is done correctly, I see no issue.

HOWEVER, making sure a certain number of people come because you want a certain number of gifts is rude. Although, that isn't usually why it is done.

As long as you dont wait until its too late and they know they are a B-lister. I think that is rude. But my FH did that to his co-workers. it was awkward. and also never send a STD to those people or else you have to invite them!

We have a B list.

@ Out the Window my list is the same as yours!

Yeah, unless you have a near limitless catering budget, this is completely normal.

Not rude...as long as you don't say....hey you're on my B list!

I will have invites with two different RSVP dates for this very reason.

@ Out the Window I love your answer rotfl

To answer your question it is normal to do that.