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Bachelorette/pre wedding outings

Jessica, on August 19, 2019 at 10:25 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 4
So future MIL planned a whole day out for us next weekend in celebration of our wedding. I'm not all that close to my family and she doesn't know any of them. In 10 years she might have met them a couple of times, if that.

When planning our outing she didnt invite any of my family , except for my mom. I didn't bring it up to my cousins at all, but I just had 2 of them over and they asked when the bachelorette would be.

Now I feel like maybe I hurt their feelings by not mentioning the outing previously, but mostly I'm just not a very social person to begin with and didnt want to force future MIL to change the plans a week before since I have no clue what she is planning.

I did let them know when they asked future MIL had made plans for us, but we could do something the weekend before the wedding. They seemed to be fine with that, but I'm kinda feeling a bit awkward.

Thoughts? Advice?


Latest activity by Clíodhna, on August 23, 2019 at 7:12 AM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I wouldn’t consider what your FMIL is planning a bachelorette party. It seems like a casual outting that she doesn’t have to invite everyone to. I don’t see any problem with making separate plans with your cousins.
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  • Jessica
    Dedicated September 2019
    Jessica ·
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    Yeah I don't think it'll be a party. She said we have 4 or 5 things on our list to do. She knows I'm not a party person. So if they inquire further that's what I'll explain. Besides, she doesn't know them and is doing this out of the kindness of her heart.
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    I agree with Caytlyn. Having a separate outing with your cousins later is perfectly fine!

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  • Clíodhna
    WeddingWire Administrator January 2030
    Clíodhna ·
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    Hey Jessica!

    I can understand why that interaction left you feeling a little awkward. The separate outing with your cousins seem like a great compromise. If they’re happy with this, I don’t see any issues Smiley smile

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