bachelorette/bachelor party invites

This is a more intimate gathering, usually smaller than the shower

If they cannot make the wedding but are invited to the wedding you can still invite them to the other parties. Do not invite everyone. Pick your very closest people. I am inviting 127 people to my wedding I think 8 were invited to the bachelorette party. The shower is the same you do not have to invite all females or something to those either. Only people close to you.

Sarah, We have already sent out invitations and we have had 46 people RSVP already, 3 can't come. Thank you for the advice though! I really wasn't sure how that worked.

Defin8itely don't invite everyone, just your closest friends. It sounds like the BP is throwing a joint bach/bachelorette party, so i would only include the BP and their significant others (if you know them) and anyone else you feel close enough to and absolutely want to be there.

I get what your saying about someone who RSVPed no. One of my close friends can't attend my wedding (her brother is getting married the same day in another state), but I would still invite her to the bachelorette because she's very close to me.

I think the wedding party was planning on inviting a bunch of people. We are also having part of the party together because we pretty much friends with all the same people. Should we tell them to only invite a few or just let them continue to plan whatever they are planning?

Edit: They are making it a complete surprise (we only know that part of the party is going to have boys and girls together) and I don't want to get in the way of their planning or anything.

On my goodness don't invite everyone. Invite your closest friends and/or family and bridal party. You can invite anyone who is invited to your wedding, even if they aren't able to make the wedding.

Matt, yes we did. We had a ton of friends asking about them so we sent them early. We are the first of our friends to get married and people were "hounding" us about the invitations, they are really excited. Lots of people have already answered. We didn't/don't see a problem with it. One less thing to worry about

You don't have to invite everyone on the GL, only close friends usually get invited not even family (unless you consider you family close friends). also I would only invite someone who declined to attend the wedding if they had a reason to decline and I still wanted to celebrate with them.

Matt - Yes we are . We aren't doing table seating or anything like that much closer to the wedding, and we don't need an RSVP until a couple weeks before the wedding, so people don't have to answer right now. There were just so many people who were eager to get there invitation and answer right away. We had 20 RSVP's one week after the invites were sent out, LOL. Thank you soooo much for the advice though!