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Bachelorette

Cindy, on December 1, 2021 at 11:31 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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My sister is a maid of honor and planning my bachelorette. she is inviting her two best friends to my bachelorette . I get along with them but it’s just my day . Is it wrong for me to tell her my sister not to invite them . I just don’t ever get to celebrate anything . My parents also are telling me to just allow it . I’m bothered because i just want it to be small and intimate with my bridal party .

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Latest activity by Jacks, on December 3, 2021 at 2:00 AM

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Melle · on December 1, 2021 at 11:44 AM
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I think that makes total sense why you don't want them there - because they are not a part of YOUR guest list for it! it should be who you want there.
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Sarah · on December 1, 2021 at 11:45 AM
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I think it’s perfectly acceptable to say you don’t want her friends there. You shouldn’t have to have guests at your bachelorette that you don’t want.
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Lisa · on December 1, 2021 at 11:46 AM
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I agree that it should be just who you want to be there. Have you already told her that you were hoping to keep it a small group with just your bridal party? I don't think it's wrong of you to ask her to not invite them.
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Heather · on December 1, 2021 at 12:34 PM
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As the bride you can definitely tell her that you don't want them there! My bachelorette trip was only me and 4 other girls which were my bridesmaids and MOH. I wanted it small and intimate and it was so much fun. My girls and I agree that it was by far the best get away trip for all of us. From past experience and even coming from my friends, whenever there were just too many girls there was always drama somehow and someway lol. Definitely let her know asap
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Theresa · on December 1, 2021 at 12:50 PM
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They're your sister's best friends? Are they even invited to the wedding? If not, tell your sister you would rather not invite them because it's rude to have people at pre-wedding events who aren't invited to the wedding.
Regardless, as others have said, tell your sister you'd rather not invite them. It's an event for you, and you should have a say in the guest list.
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Shannon · on December 1, 2021 at 1:49 PM
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I also would not allow that. Chances are, she’ll be spending her time at your bachelorette with her friends. That’s not fair to you.
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Katherine · on December 2, 2021 at 9:43 AM
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The weekend is about you. If you don’t want them there I suggest speak up. I had people try to control mine and I put my foot down. I get there planning it but the event is about you not about them and their friends. Batch party’s are usually supposed to be the bridal party unless the bride says otherwise.
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Jacks · on December 3, 2021 at 2:00 AM
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If the sister's friends aren't invited to the wedding, it would be rude to invite them to a pre-wedding event, so hopefully they aren't invited to the wedding. In either case, I think it's OK to speak up about your need for a smaller gathering.
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