Bachelorette

Hey girl! I'm a Future Mrs. B here in VA too! I wanted to go to Nashville so bad and my girls shot it down Hopefully your girls will go for it!!

Weddings are expensive girl, and your 'maids are already shelling out a butt-load of money just to be in your wedding! Pressuring them to throw some elaborate bachlorette party is asking A LOT of these women who are your nearest and dearest! If they offered Miami then that's one thing, but you should be grateful with whatever they offer to throw you! It is NOT REQUIRED for bridesmaids to throw you ANY parties at all! Plus you don't want to make them feel bad if they can't afford it and now they think they've ruined your pre-wedding fun!

You’re absolutely not awful for wanting a destination bachelorette. The fact that you’re currently asking shows that you’re trying to be considerate of them.

I did a destination to Nashville and it was a BLAST! Girls who wanted to cut cost drove down instead of flying, and the AirB&B was super affordable for them since the group was so large. Propose the idea to the girls and see what they say. Be prepared that not everyone can afford the time for the trip or the expense but they may surprise you.

You’re going to have to talk to your bridesmaids and see what they think of the idea. Miami can be expensive, but there’s always ways to keep costs down. However unless you are hosting it yourself, you’re going to have to have everyone on board. I have also noticed that people tend to agree with destination bachelorette parties initially and then back out for a variety of reasons. But if this is what you’re thinking, it’s time to start those discussions.

Talk to them and find out. I picked and planned my bachelorette to Vegas. The guys went as well for their bachelor party. It was ALWAYS optional. My one bridesmaids opted out as she had a baby less than a year ago and didn't have the funds. I additionally paid a portion of each one's stay/hotel to make it more affordable. We had a pretty awesome time!

I live in Canada and my bachelorette is Vegas. You aren't awful for wanting it, lol. It's a know your crowd thing- also ask your bridal party if it's feasible for them first. Mine are the ones who suggested it, so i just went with it! We invited 15 people and made it clear in the invite that we understand it's an elaborate bachelorette and absolutely understand if not everyone can come. I have 7 coming out o 15- I think that's a success for a destination bachelorette! Just make sure you have the discussion.

I would suggest talking to each bridesmaid privately too, to see if it is something they are comfortable with! People tend to say yes in group settings, but then later pull out. Check with everyone and then decide if it is feasible. If most say they can make it, then start planning!

I'm in VA too and I think Miami might be the move for my bachelorette. I already dropped hints before I even asked anyone to be a bridesmaid so I dont want to even hear it. AND since we all live in VA, they already know even if it isn't in Miami it definitely better not be here.

I think early planning is key and letting them know upfront what your expectations are. You also should be open minded about other options too, but it doesn't hurt to ask.

Whoever plans it should consult budgets prior to planning. If the girls can afford to go to Miami, then that's fine. If not, have it in VA.

I don't think you're awful for wanting to have a destination bach. party. The heart wants what it wants.

I do think you should definitely start talking to your ladies now because this will definitely be a budgetary issue for at least one of them. Maybe you should consider asking what they were thinking of doing first, before bringing it up. Maybe they are already thinking the way you are.

I briefly thought of having a destination bachelorette party in Vegas (only about 8 hours from where I live so I even justified all of us driving down), but I'm also going on a honeymoon the week after so I didn't think it was all that necessary to be going on 2 out-of-town trips in one month. I also know that my bridesmaids aren't rich so I didn't bother asking them.

It doesn't hurt to ask and see what they think - and give them time to think about it, too. They might initially be taken aback, and time might help.