Neeva
Devoted April 2020

Bachelorette pricing

Neeva, on October 31, 2019 at 8:08 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 25
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Hey all!

I just needed to get a rough idea for my own sanity about bachelorette parties.

I have bridesmaids who live all over the country (Texas, Cali, Florida etc.) and I wanted to do something relaxed in a city near a major airport so decided on Scottsdale, Arizona. There are a lot of cute boutique hotels and want to keep activities to shopping, eating, drinking, hanging out etc.

My sister is a convention planner and is used to staying in high end hotels. She is looking to book us a boutique inn that would be 200/night/person for a 3 night party- this is with splitting rooms. One of my best friends has addressed to me that the hotel is too expensive and would want to sleep on a couch to save costs. I definitely don't want her to have to do that! The only cheaper option would be to stay in a chain hotel like a Hampton Inn or find an Airbnb.

Should we change the plans for one person? Should I ask the others what their budget is first?

Any advice would be appreciated!!!

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  • Neeva
    Devoted April 2020
    Neeva Online ·
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    Actually the cost would be between 157-195/per person/per night after a discount. I could put her in the cheaper room?? Thanks!!

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Budget definitely should have been discussed before making such expensive plans. I personally would never want to exclude one of my closest friends from my bachelorette party because of finances, but I guess it depends on your priorities.

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  • Mrs. Sarantos
    Master November 2019
    Mrs. Sarantos ·
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    I would just stay at the Hampton inn
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  • Jeanie
    Rockstar February 2020
    Jeanie ·
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    Don't separate one friend from the group. You also should have asked budget prior to planning anything. I do agree that nearly $200 a night is expensive. It's all very well and good that your sister is used to "high end hotels," but that doesn't mean that is A) what everyone else can afford and B) what either of you should assume everyone else wants. Budget-wise, it would be $600 off the bat, not including airfare/travel expenses, food, beverages, and entertainment. That could easily add up to a very expensive trip. Don't forget these girls still have to buy dresses, accessories and everything else for your wedding, not including a shower if you're having one. I suggest you talk to all of your bridesmaids individually and see what they can afford and then start planning.

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  • Neeva
    Devoted April 2020
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    Definitely! I'm just wondering on how to approach the situation now. I thought my sister had discussed with them what they would be able to pay

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  • J
    Devoted July 2020
    Jaime ·
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    Book the cheaper hotel and everyone needs to be checked in with about their budget. No one should be catering to what your sister wants - plans should be made to cater to the lowest budget and you go from there. See if you can do some research on the lowest price hotels that have decent beds - that will be the one thing that leaves a pretty big impact vs being in a high end fancy room.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    You should have a conversation with your sister (or whoever is hosting the party) and let her know that you'd like to find a less expensive option and she should talk to the rest of the invitees about their budgets before making decisions.

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  • Neeva
    Devoted April 2020
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    I've started to go back and ask and only 1 friend with an issue. So I am going to fix it for her! I will look at some AirBnB options and see what I can find Smiley smile

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  • Lauren
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    Lauren ·
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    Honestly, I think $200/night per person for 3 nights would be way too expensive for me to want to attend someone's bachelorette party... even if it was my best friend. That's $600 before all the activities and food they'll pay for.... and their flights. I know Phoenix can be expensive to fly into from a lot of cities. One of my bridesmaids lives in Scottsdale, and her flight for my wedding will be around $400. I would definitely go with the Hampton Inn. I've always had good experiences with Hampton Inn!

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  • Neeva
    Devoted April 2020
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    Yeah! I like Hampton Inn too. It will be further out so we will have to pay more for transportation but I think the money we would save would be worthwhile Smiley smile

    I had no idea it was so expensive to fly in and out, I will look into maybe whether I need to pick a new city too. Planning is so tough!!

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  • T
    Dedicated October 2020
    Trinity Online ·
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    Do you need individual room? Wouldn't it be more intimate to share one room so you can also bond with the girls? 200/ night is very expensive.

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  • Jade
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    I think you should discuss costs with each person first, or in a group if everyone is already friends. My bachelorette is going to be quite expensive, but I’ve already discussed it with all bridesmaids, & they’re down with it! If it didn’t work for anyone, I would have switched what I was doing though.
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  • Meghan
    Rockstar October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    Discussing budget with everyone prior to planning anything definitely should have been done. At this point, I would just look into an Airbnb. I generally prefer those over hotels anyway. You get an entire house to yourself and its cheaper. This maybe the best option to save money and not single out your one friend.

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    Master October 2019
    Angelena ·
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    Airbnb sounds like a way better option for a group of people.. or a cheaper hotel suite. I booked an affordable Holiday Inn suite in Vegas for 6 girls and it wasn't 200 a night per person. In fact, the total was a little over $600 split between everyone. Airbnb could still give you a luxurious feel for way less cost.

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  • M
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    Marcia ·
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    Some hotels have suites where there’s more than one room. Maybe try that and split the cost. Or Airbnb is always good too.
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  • Cristy
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    Cristy ·
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    I agree with this exactly!! It might be a different story if you were talking about one night's worth of expenses. But you said it was going to be 3 nights!! Yikes!

    I'm sorry your sister is "used to high end hotels." She might have to slum it this one time.

    Talk to your bridesmaids about what they can afford. This should have been discussed before any plans were made.

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  • MrsD
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    Your sister really shouldn't have started planning without consulting budgets of all the other bridesmaids. $200 per night per person not including flight, car, gas, food, activities, etc. is a lot even for Scottsdale. We go to Scottsdale all the time and stay in beautiful high end hotels for $300-$400 per night for two people. So it would be easy to have 4 girls split a room and pay $100 or less per night.

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  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Id just stay in something cheaper. I don't think every aspect needs to be luxe.
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  • B
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    Brittany ·
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    It was important to me that all of my bridesmaids could attend my bachelorette so I made sure it was affordable for all. We chose a location that was in between the 2 states everyone lived in so everyone could drive, and we chose the most affordable hotel we could find. The hotel was split between everyone ($120 a person total for 2 nights) and then girls volunteered to bring extras like papertowels, snacks, decorations, etc.

    Since your bridal party has to fly I definitely recommend going with cheaper accommodations. I'm sure more girls are going to have an issue with spending $200 a night after playing for a flight. Some people are nervous to admit they can't afford something, so it's likely you'll have people waiting until the day your sister is booking to say I can't go, or even deciding not to go once its already booked. Affordable is always the best way.

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  • Neeva
    Devoted April 2020
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    I guess the main problem here is that I let my sister plan this and wanted to not really be involved and now am being forced to since it's costly. I decided to cut down a day and change up the room assignments to make it cheaper. I am also having to likely put down the deposit on the hotel myself so people can reimburse me later. Just thought the bachelorette was the one thing I could put on someone else's plate!

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