Bachelorette Party/weekend

Since everyone is on a tight budget, I'd just plan on contributing if I were you. My MOH didn't want me to contribute, but I didn't feel right about that. So I paid for dinner for everyone the first night, groceries for the house, and favors for everyone. I've never heard of the MOH paying for more than herself & the bride. Typically it's discussed what guests can afford.

No, not really. Usually the trip is planned and the MOH makes sure everyone agrees on where to go and what to do based on everyone's budget.

Definitely not! I would suggest for the weekend to go smoothly make a list of food for the weekend and have everyone split up what they want to bring. Then if you end up going out for dinner/drinks/fun have your mom pay with a credit card so you don't have to spend time splitting bills and then have everyone venmo their share.

I'm doing almost the same thing for my bachelorette. My family has a house in Palm Springs and my sister is MOH. She just put together a rough estimate of what the weekend is going to cost, with ubers($10 max), drinks ($15-30), dancing (cover could be free), dinner ($50+), and take out ($15) and emailed the whole bridal party. Since they aren't paying for hotel and food could be rather cheap it wasn't a big ask.

Here's how mine was handled: My MOH and I picked a location that was in the middle of where we all lived (between NJ and VA). We had all the bridesmaids give us weekends they were free, we chose one. My MOH found an affordable hotel and let all the bridesmaids know the price, they split that evenly. Then she asked for volunteers to bring extras like decorations, snacks and stuff that way everyone could choose a task that they have the budget and time for. Then everyone paid for their own food and drinks while we went out. Sometimes one of the girls would buy me a drink or pay for my dinner.

That's what my MOH did! We also went to Palm Springs & rented a house. She made reservations for 1 breakfast and 1 dinner so we had an estimate on what food would cost. She ended up getting WAY too many groceries (I wish she would have consulted me, she had never been on a bach before and overbought especially since I had already got groceries). I also covered the ubers (except for 2 times we had to take separate ubers because we had 7 people).

I think my MOH is planning on having everyone split the cost for me. I would never expect the MOH to pay for everyone and I wouldn't think anyone else would either. I would also be 100% ok with paying for myself if they couldn't afford to split my cost.

EDIT: I'm sure that I will also buy favors for the girls and probably treat them to breakfast or something, just as a thank you.

For my bachelorette everyone is splitting costs, even me. We all split the cost for the house were staying at and we will split meals. However, there are things that my girls have already told me no about helping with such as our shirts and admission to the zoo we're going to. So no its not expected for your MOH to pay for everyone. I would speak to her about talking to your other bridesmaids about what is feasible for everyone and their budgets.

I had a similar bachelorette weekend, except we didn't go out anywhere. My MOH coordinated with a good friend of ours to use her family's beach cottage (for free). They insisted I didn't pay for anything, even though I offered several times. What she did was tell all of the invitees that RSVP'd yes that they would all need to pitch in for food. She paired girls up and assigned them each a meal to be in charge of cooking. And asked if everyone could pitch in on snacks and things to drink. The only expenses were food & gas to get there. It was great, a lot of fun, and inexpensive. At the cottage we laid out on the beach, fished, kayaked, ate crabs, played games, and just hung out.

I think you need to ask bridesmaids what their budgets are before you TELL them how much things are. If their budgets are less than what you're planning, you (and your mom) need to rethink the bach events, or pay for it.

I think usually the group communicates together about how to split the costs between everyone attending. It shouldn't all fall on MOH unless she offers. It's really up to you if you think you should/shouldn't contribute. In my case, I wanted to go to Vegas so I didn't mind paying for some things (such as the hotel) but my MOH (my sister) is going to pay for a lot of my drinks and other stuff.

My friends paid for themselves and split my portion amongst themselves.