Bachelorette Party

A week in advance is not ok. Many of my weekends are booked months in advance. My bridesmaids were informed of my bachelorette date as soon as I knew, which was about 6 months in advance

ETA: A friend of mine's bachelorette was planned and put together on short notice. We knew two weeks in advance and it made scheduling very difficult. I would say at least a month in advance.

We planned mine in less than a week and it worked out. It depends on the people you are inviting. We did mine after my shower because everyone had already taken that day off so I knew it would work. I should add that we planned my shower with a few weeks notice.

One week is definitely not long enough. My weekends are booked months out.

My bachelorette party is a destination weekend, but everyone has already booked flights and my MOH has booked a condo and planned some activities. Mine is in June. We set a date with everyone in December- 6 months in advance.

If you don't expect a great attendance you can definitely do a week.

People need notice...as soon as whoever is planning your bachelorette knows when it will be they need to notify the other participants.

I was going to suggest 3 weeks for a local get-together...but now I feel like a loser because my weekends are not booked months in advance

Ha my weekends aren't booked either, Cat.

Generally, if I really want people to make an effort to attend something, I give them at least a month. If I'm inviting someone to something 1-2 weeks out, I'm pretty much assuming they already have plans and I'm inviting them as a courtesy or an "if you can make it, stop by" situation.

This is my dilemma. I am extremely grateful to have a Bachelorette planned for me, but I kind of wish I would be told what was going on. I've asked that we just do low key and a FB invite to just get the date out there to people. The date is April 2nd and I don't want to step on my BMs toes who is planning. She said she wants to take care of it and take care of making the invite. My shower invites were mailed two weeks before the shower and I had so many texts and calls from people who told me they would have loved to go, but they already had plans and now I am kind of hesitant to do the same thing with the Bachelorette.

I was hoping that since it was less formal I could get away with it, but at this point I don't know if I want to invite a lot of my friends to go since the invite is not out yet. I am thinking now I'll just have BMs, mom, FMIL, and FSIL.

My BM planning text today and asked about the date again and asked if 4/2 or 4/16 would work better, but I also don't want to ask anyone to give up two weekends in a row (wedding is 4/24). Also I am worried I may be busy the weekend before the wedding with last minute stuff. I don't want to say anything. I just wanted to get opinions so I know who to invite when she sends me the FB invite. Thank you!

I like to know a month in advance, but that is my anal-ness.

I don't see anything wrong with a weeks notice but I would be prepared for declines.

I think my bacchlorette e-invites went out 2 or 3 weeks in advance.. it ended up being just bridesmaids and one other friend... It was a Thursday night though, (the only possibility, since I and 2 bridesmaids were coming from out of state). But you know what, I wouldn't have it any other way!

Even with a week notice, people who want to be there, will be there!

I think a month in advance for something local is appreciated. With one week's notice, I might not prioritize the event or I would think my invitation was an afterthought. I actually was invited to a local bachelorette party a week in advance, and I am 99% sure that I was an afterthought. I was busy so I couldn't go, but if I wasn't busy I would have internally questioned whether they really wanted me there or not.

A week is not enough time. If anyone has kids you need to give them 3-4 weeks to set up sitter.

I think you need to tell you BM what happened with the shower invites and that you want to give people enough notice about the bachelorette so that those wanting to participate can. If you don't say anything she just thinks what she's doing is fine, when it clearly isn't.

A week is def not enough, two weeks is pushing it. Your best bet is a month in advance. If this is your bach I would say tell whoever is doing the inviting to let guest know ASAP. Tell her you understand her wanting to do paper invites (they are cute, I love getting invites in the mail), but shooting everyone a quick text. "Jana's bach is April 2, hope you can join us, invites with more details are in the mail." BC mailing stuff adds at least 3 days to someone receiving it. This is why under wedding events on my wedding website it has the dates for my shower, so ppl have some sort of advance notice. bc I live out of state I would hate to travel 13 hours there and back (I want to be able to transport my gifts) and it be poorly attended bc of notice.