Bachelorette Party???

My mom was planning to come to mine but we were going to do a wine bus tour. We ended up choosing to go away for the weekend to Baltimore and i just told her i don’t think i would feel 100% comfortable with her being there (i want the typical, penis’s everywhere, bachelorette party😂) although my moms a good sport i would rather not have to think about my girls and i toning it down because she is there haha

I don’t think you’re in the wrong at all for not wanting them there especially if it makes you uncomfortable.


I however am weird and so are my friends because we BEGGED my mom to agree to come to mine even though she thought it would be weird, but all my friends love her and my moms my BestFriend (not to say that’s yours isn’t) but it feels right to me to have my mom attend.

View Quoted Comment Girl, same! I loved having my mom at my bachelorette!

Nope what if you did a spa day movie night with your jr bridesmaids and momma

Nope. You’re not wrong. If you go out dancing, how would your mom think you’d get your sister in? Most clubs here are 21 and up.


If she thinks your sister is being left out, do a spa day with her. But it’s not your mothers place to be there.

You could always do a nice dinner with them and everyone else before festivities begin!

No way! Why would the mom want her around all the older girls drinking anyway? I think having a separate event is a great compromise and Im doing something similar. 4 of my bridesmaids are under 22, and 2 are over 30. So I just did age appropriate things with each little set.

I’ll reply as the “odd girl out” because my mom attended both my and my sister’s bachelorette parties. HOWEVER, my mom is super chill and fun and is close to a lot of the people who were invited to both parties. She also knew that we might be slightly inappropriate and stressed many times that she didn’t need or expect to be there. We did a lingerie gift at both parties and my mom gave us very nice robes and thought the sexier stuff was funny/cute, but again it’s a personality thing At my bachelorette party my college friends gave me edible undies and a vibrator, it was slightly awkward but since she was expecting it it ended up more funny than anything else. So I’d say it totally depends on you, your mom, your friends and the relationships that exist between all of them!


Neither of us invited anyone who was underage. Honestly no matter the location it can severely limit your options on places to go. For my sisters party we hung out at a hotel went to a cider place for dinner and a piano bar. It was pretty chill but super fun, and we wouldn’t have been able to do this with a 12 year old (she can come to the shower, get hair/nails done with you before the wedding)
If you’re not into having your mom there, I’d err on the side of cation and not invite her. Again, totally dependent on your relationship with her and how she will react to the festivities! In my opinion, DO NOT invite a 12 year old

No you’re not wrong. I’m sorry but mom had to understand... maybe plan a spa day just for you all

You are not wrong at all! I will be having a similar conversation with my mom and 18 year old niece. Although she is 18... I would still be uncomfortable if she is in the room.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much everyone. I sat down and had a heart to heart with mom and told her I would not budge. It took her a bit but she finally understood. Thank you!!!

My best friend had a dinner for Mother, MIL, female family and pregnant friends to celebrate bachelorette party and then the drinking/dancing chaos came after dinner- I thought that was a great idea

As someone who has lost her mom, I would advice for you to self reflect and think about your decision carefully. In 30 years, when you look back will you regret not having her there especially since it means so much to her?
I invited my mother in law to my bachelorette because she wanted to be a part of it and although I will keep it clean because of it I don’t mind because I know I won’t regret it in the future.

No you're not wrong .