Bachelorette Party

That’s weird she has to have it so early but I will say two of my best friends got engaged within two months of each other and are planning on getting married within 3 months of each other and since they have mostly the same friend group they’ve decided they will have a joint Bach party. Idk if you are close enough to this friend that you would want to share your party, if you don’t I would just talk to her and ask her to wait until it’s closer to her wedding. If you’re in a friend circle you should be able to talk about stuff like that.

Yeah, it's kind of crazy for her to have her bachelorette 8 months before her actual wedding. If she's a close friend, I would talk to her, but be mindful of how you phrase things. You don't want her to feel like she's being attacked.

Haha. I'm getting married in March and having a February Bach. I'd be annoyed if fiances friend's fiance had her bachlorette 7 months early, and we dont run in the same circles at all.

I'd talk to her.

Definitely odd timing for a bachelorette. While the bride can obviously have a hand in choosing dates and attendees, the bride doesn't plan her bachelorette, so it seems quite strange that this is happening. I'm assuming you know for a fact that she asked for this from her bridesmaids?

So tricky! I'm sure both you girls have certain themes and expectations in your minds to celebrate your big day! But keep in mind you're not responsible for how your friend's finances during your celebrations. They accept being a bridesmaids and or joining in on the festivities knowing that money will be spent! Now if you guys were booking suites at the Ritz Carlton and requesting bottle service all night then that would be a little grand! But the girls did accept the bridesmaids proposals and bachelorette invitations so they should weigh the options carefully and budget wisely so that both you beautiful brides have the support team you guys deserve!

Does she know when your bachelor party is? Honestly as annoying as this is I be careful talking to her because I know if I planned a pre-wedding event when I planned it I really would not want another bride asking me to change my day to accommodate their event. Because she could just easily say why don't you do yours in March instead. I personally don't understand why she's doing it's so early I agree with you but I just feel that it's going to be taken the wrong way if you ask her to change her event. Maybe if you're really close to her just kind of bring up the fact that both bachelorette parties are going to be expensive. Maybe to let her know that it's going to force people to choose which one they want to go too. But that all depends on your relationship with her but I know that I would appreciate it bride asking me to move my bachelorette to accommodate hers.

Maybe February is what worked for her scheduled and what she wanted to do for her party. Maybe there are certain people she wants there and this is what works. You get your day and she gets hers. You can not dictate when she gets to have her party.

That is strange that she is having hers so early but sure, you can talk to her but at the end of the day it is her right to have her party whenever she wants to and it definitely shouldn't be something that causes tension in the friendship.

I would talk to her and approach the matter in a "what's better for everyone as a whole" way. Just say "Hey girl! I wanted to talk about the Bachelorette parties. Due to the fact that mine is also in February and I'm getting married in March, money is gonna be a little tight for me and I'm sure other people attending both: with two parties, dresses, accommodations for the wedding, etc. I don't know if you'd be open to choosing a different month but I definitely think it would be a lot more fun for you if we could replenish our accounts a little bit and then spend more on the Airbnb, activities you want to do, etc. Please don't feel like I'm trying to steal your thunder. I just want to make sure you have a really great Bachelorette party! I can't speak for everyone but if February is still the best month for you, I will absolutely make it work!

Do you know if there's a specific reason that she wants to have it so early? For me, I had mine in November and I don't get married until this May (so 7 months). However, my maid of honor is being deployed at the end of this month and so we wanted it done before the holidays since it's a busy time for everyone. Since she's missing the actual wedding due to deployment this was the one thing she wanted to get to be a part of. Unless she has a good reason I agree that the timing is a little strange

I would just plan yours and let her be. We are of the age where we have at least 3 weddings a year, several bach parties, bridal showers, baby showers, birthdays, etc. and they are constantly in the same month. We make it work.

You have no business talking to her about it. They are completely separate things, and there is nothing at all wrong with what she is doing. She has as much right to take a mini vacation with friends any time she wants to. Whether you call it a bachelorette or not, that is what it is . She and friends want to do it then. You don't like it? Change yours. Searching for dates is difficult, for a group. You cannot reserve a month. If many guests cannot do both you will each have small groups, or one of you will have to change. But there is no reason she should, instead of you . Let whoever is planning the parties worry about it. If many want to do both, they will work out their budget. But many may want to go to only one anyways. Unless they have lots of money, or do not work full time, most people cannot afford to take time and money for 2 mini vacations, in addition to multiple weddings, and their own personal vacation with SO or family, in one year. An endless number of single evening parties, yes. But multiple days for multiple bachelorette parties, not usually, no. So many will do only one, no matter how far apart any 2 parties are, due to time and money for vacations in a whole year plan.