Bachelorette Party - Should I Skip?!

Ooooo, a tea would be nice.

It's up to your bridesmaids/MOH to plan or not plan a bachelorette party. If they don't want to or can't plan one then that's that.

I know you probably want the experience and the fun but you're not supposed to plan your own.

I'm not doing a bachelorette party at all. or a shower. just getting girls together for an afternoon of fun and games. no gifts.

In the South, it is traditional for the bride to host a bridesmaids luncheon to thank them. I suggest you do something like that because you should not be planning the bachelorette party. A high tea would be lovely. You would need to fully this host this, ie pay the bill.

I told my bridesmaids that I don't want a bachelorette party but I'm having a bridal shower because my FMIL insisted..

Oh I didn't mean I was planning it we just couldn't find a day everyone could do! Lol but I like the idea of hosting a tea for them...again, may be hard with schedules. I was just getting a tad distraught. Thanks guys!

Your wedding is on a Sunday, could you possibly do something the Friday before? Or during the day Saturday before the rehearsal if you're having one.

I moved away from my home town a few years ago so what we've discussed is having a bridal shower on a Saturday, then a bachelorette that evening. At least then its one weekend of travel instead of multiple. I should include that ill be going to them, not asking them to come here.

In my youth (sometime before the dawn of time), the bachelor and bachelorette parties were always held the night before the wedding. Would your BMs be available then?

My MOH is hosting my shower on June 11th and we are doing something that Friday and Saturday (June 9th and 10th). I have 4 bridesmaids coming from Pennsylvania, Montana and Arizona. Only 2 are in town.

My wedding is in September and all the girls liked it better than having to fly out more than twice.

Love the ideas! We were actually just talking about Friday @Faith. Unfortunately the rehearsal is at noon Saturday but maybe something during the day Friday. @2d Bride in my youth I would've been game but being 30, I would feel terrible all day on my wedding day lol but Friday sounds good to something! Thanks for troubleshooting with me, guys, many bridal minds are better than one!

My girls asked me where I wanted to go because they wanted to plan one for me, so I had a large part in planning my party.

If you want to do something and it's difficult to plan an overnight get together, I think a tea would be nice.

My girls are already planning a shower for me, I didn't want to have them have to pay my way for a Bachelorette party as well so we're all splitting the cost evenly and meeting up with my FH and his groomsmen after their party and doing a joint thing at the end of the night. I don't see a problem with a bride helping plan her Bachelorette party so long as the bms want to plan one.

I'm not doing a bachelorette party! FH and I both agree it shouldn't be done! We rather do something with our friends together like floating the river.

I skipped having one because we could never find a day or activity that everyone could attend. My MOH tried but nothing ever seemed to work out. My husband had a weekend with his buddies. But for us girls, it was just too much of a hassle to find a day everyone could go, especially with so many conflicting work schedules. My MOH and I just went and got our nails done a day before the wedding instead, just the two of us.

That sounds nice, Amanda. An intimate, relaxing time with a special friend right before your wedding.

I didn't have one because I always thought they were stupid.

@kittycow, yes it was nice and very chill! I was a little bummed it didn't work out and a little jealous DH got his fun, but looking back it's not a huge deal to me at all. If you're able to have one and/or want one, I'm sure it would be fun and you'll probably have some cool memories from it but I personally don't think bachelorette/bachelor parties are necessary. You can still plan fun events with your friends after you're married! Lol.