Bachelorette Party Nightmare.....

(contin)... have camp fires, drink, etc. so my MOH found a cabin that is about an hour away (for one night) and of the 10 girls only 2 were willing to pitch in for that b/c it was too much money to rent and then buy food and drinks and then they didn't want to be that far from home for the night and some of the younger girls had to work and/or their parents didn't want them camping out with a bunch of adults who were drinking. I then said (again) forget it, I'm over it.... so then we discussed a co-ed bachelor/bachelorette party where all the BM's and their SO's and all the GM's and their SO's could come camping and everyone could pitch in and I was willing to settle for that b/c I just don't care and just want SOMETHING and then of all my girls only 2 or 3 were willing to join in on that b/c it is an entire weekend and I guess when my MOH sent out the invite text she didn't tell them they could bring their SO's and no one wants to go camping with a bunch of people of the opposite sex if they cant bring their SO ... then ......... you have all the young girls hanging out with all the drinking adults again. I told her I want it to be a surprise but I also want it to be fun and something I want to do and something all the other girls want to do and it's just not working out. So..... I think I am gonna have to plan something for myself or I am just not gonna get anything. It's like she just isn't taking all of the different interests/age groups into consideration and I am so totally annoyed....END RANT!

Ladies, what should I do? TIA

Nobody seems interested in doing a thing, so why don't you just let it go?

Ya... I could. I just wanted us all to get together even if it was just for dinner. I wasn't asking for much but I feel like the other girls would be interested in doing something if my MOH would think of something that they could all do. IDK.

I would either:

1) Let it go. Let them plan it themselves or let them feel sh!tty for not pulling anything together for me.

2) Invite them all to the bar on xxx date to celebrate your impending marriage with a girls night. If they can come, great, if not, great.

Ya Snarky.... that's what I keep thinking. I am gonna say hey I am going to dinner on this date then out for drinks... whoever wants to come great, whoever doesn't /can't that's fine too! I am just all caught in the middle of it b/c every time a new plan is made I have BM's calling/texting me complaining/questioning it and I'm over here like umm...... (crickets).....

Well, there's gonna be complications when you try and plan something with so many people and also want to invite underage people.

Choose a date and invite them all to a pre wedding dinner.

Start responding with, "Brides aren't supposed to be involved in this! Hope you and -MOH2- can work it out!"

I'm sorry they are dropping the ball. I think everyone deserves a bachelorette *hug*

Haha I know snarky... I wanted ONE surprise... that's it LOL and thank you!

Maybe there's a surprise on the horizon?

Who are the underage girls that you feel obliged to invite? Do you HAVE to include them? They seem to be a definite drain on an ADULT event (can't be around drinking adults, can't camp with drinking adults, etc). Can you leave them out and just do dinner and drinks at a nice restaurant with a bar where you could continue the after dinner drinks?

@PK, true. FH lied to my face the day I got engaged saying it wouldn't be soon, but in about 6 months around Christmas.

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Haha purplekitten maybe but it's doubtful. I'm dealing with a rough crowd!

The under-ager's are cousins who are also BM's. There are 5 of them. I tried dinner at a nice place then sending them home and going out for drinks with the other's and then I had complaints b/c dinner and drinks is too pricey but then they go planning an expensive cabin get a way so idk how that's not too expensive .... ya know?

Snarky, I LOL'd pretty hard at that meme!

I say let it be. Don't stress too much. Plan a dinner and drinks letting everyone know. If they come they come, if not well, then that's that.

I'm crossing my fingers and hoping it's a surprise party for you.

Since they are BMs I can see how you want to include them. I would go back to the nice dinner idea. And like I said, move to the bar for those that can drink. It can't cost that much for a few drinks at the restaurant bar and much cheaper than clubs. That's the only way I can see having an "adult" event and including the underage girls. It will be hard to have a traditional bachelorette party with the underage girls.

Or think outside the box ... Amusement park for a day? Baseball game? Sleepover at someone's house?

@snarky i love that suprise hamster!

I think I'm just going to go to dinner for mine. I only have a MOH and one bridesmaid. One absolutely can't drink because of her medication. The other doesn't drink. Not one person that I would want to come would drink. I'm the only one! I might see if fh will take me out with his friends and their girlfriends for my bach. Then he can have his without me.

I agree with @Kelli why are you even worrying about the underage people in the bridal party? They have obviously stated they can't do anything that involves more money than an average dinner, and they can't go drink. Have the people of age plan something and do it with them. I think a nice dinner and drinks isn't too much to ask. You don't have to go spend $100/pp for dinner, but something nice. And the camping thing, that actually sounds really fun too. Cabins need to be paid for and if split between everyone, I don't feel like it should be that much. It should be cheaper than a night in a hotel. And beer is cheap. And food is a necessity, you would be spending the money either way.

I think worry about your adult friends and just have fun, don't worry about including everyone. A bachelorette party is for adults anyways.