Bachelorette Party Mess

Do you have any local friends attending the wedding besides bridesmaids?

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I do, but it would be weird having one with them.

I’m having my bachelorette party the Thursday before the wedding for this very reason. All 3 of my bridesmaids will fly in Thursday and we will go out that night. All my local friends will be invited as well as close friends from out of town that may or may not choose to come in early.

View Quoted Comment We are doing the same thing for this reason! My bridesmaids will be flying in Thursday as well. 🙌🏽Just to eliminate all of the potential mess.

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That's a good idea.

So I’m moh for a bride where her other bridesmaids also don’t live in the same state and we just all made sure to have one weekend where we combine all her pre wedding events so we don’t have to travel so much

View Quoted Comment You think it would be that easy. Two of them don’t have the money to fly.

View Quoted Comment So we asked the bride if we could just fly HER out here instead as an option since 1 vs 3 airfares would be better

I think you need to be a bit more mindful of your circumstances and re-evaluate your expectations.

I am one of those who thinks that the maid of honor or bridesmaids should be the one planning the hens, but, not everyone has a hens and not everyone has the same ideas as to what to do for a hens. Here, you have the majority of your bridal party living out of state - that changes things.

Maybe try get everyone together on a call and ask if it’s something they want to do for you. Realistically, with the bridal party being interstate, it might very well be something that won’t happen, but opening dialogue with the group will be a good starting point to get an idea for everyone’s thoughts.

I have one bridesmaid who is currently on a long-term missions trip in Uganda and won’t be back until very close to my wedding, so I understand this!
Could you maybe do something the week of your wedding when they are already there? Maybe go get your nails done together or something along those lines? ☺️

View Quoted Comment I get it but you deserve a night of fun and it doesn't have to just be bridal party.

I feel your pain. 4 of my 6 BMs live out of state, plus one is under 21 and the daughter of another BM (a friend of mine from HS and her 17 y/o daughter who is basically my niece).

I ended up polling them as to what they would prefer on timeline, either trying to do a bachelorette a month or two before, or doing one the weekend before since they were pretty much all planning to come out for a week or more anyway. They all agreed the weekend before was better. Still not sure what that party is actually going to be though. Since we have the one youngster and I'm not really a "club" kind girl, I'm thinking of just a nice dinner somewhere and maybe a few drinks somewhere my niece can hang out with us.