Bachelorette Party Goodies

I would think it would be very off-putting if they attended the bachelorette party and there were some girls with personalized items and others without. For me, it would be an all or nothing type of deal. Can the personalized things be given to your bridal party members at a different time? I suppose you could pass it off as only bridal party receiving these items, but that still doesn't really sit well with me.

I would try to give them those gifts before the other girls who wont receive them see them at the time. IF the gifts are specific to Bride Tribe or something of that nature the other girls might feel left out unless you tell them ahead of time. I think it also needs to be put into factor if you are going out of town for the party or staying local - if people are spending money on airfare or hotels then you should consider including them. Always be upfront and honest - I'm sure they'd understand.

I don't know how they wouldn't feel left out. At any other party, it would be considered impolite to give party favors to only SOME guests, so I don't think it makes it ok just because this is for your wedding and the items cost you money. Remember, these guests will be spending their own time and money to attend your party.

I think you have three kind options: 1) make the items for everyone; 2) don't invite non-bridal party people to the party; 3) give the gifts at another time when only the bridal party is present (e.g., while getting ready for the wedding).

I think it's rude to invite people to attend, have them pay for their portion, then not give them a goodie bag.

Yes, it would be rude to give goodies to some and not others. I would save the personalized stuff for another occasion (like their bridesmaid gift), or just invite your bridesmaids to the bachelorette. You could always have a separate brunch with the bridesmaids and give them their goodies then too! Don't make your other party guests uncomfortable by leaving them out something! Have fun!!