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Bachelorette party disappointment

Hanna, on April 18, 2019 at 11:22 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 31

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I am incredibly upset and disappointed. My bachelorette party is this weekend but my MOH called me this morning and hardly anyone can go. I know it's Easter weekend but this was the weekend THEY chose saying it worked best for them. There were suppose to be about 10 of us and now it's just 3 people that can go. It makes me feel like I'm not important to them and honestly I'm kind of regretting who I picked to be there for me on my big day. Am I over reacting? I just feel hurt 😔

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Formerbride · on April 18, 2019 at 11:25 AM
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I'm sorry you feel that way! You will have a good time no matter what. I don't get people. If I say I'm going to do something, I do it no matter what.
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Mrs. H · on April 18, 2019 at 11:26 AM
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I don't think you're overreacting. I'd be upset if I were you too - especially because they all committed to the weekend and the event and are seemingly backing out at the last minute.
I am sure you will still have fun, even with just 3 others!
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Christine · on April 18, 2019 at 11:33 AM
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You have every right to feel hurt, that's a huge bummer. I know you'll still have a great time this weekend though, even with just a few friends!
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Soon2Bmrsp · on April 18, 2019 at 11:33 AM
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Would they consider rescheduling to another weekend so that everyone can be there? Did they not realize that this was Easter weekend when they selected it as an option?
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Mary · on April 18, 2019 at 11:38 AM
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To me it would depend on why they cancelled. If they had legit reason like people became sick, can't find a babysitter, surprise family in town, etc I wouldn't be upset because life happens. Now if they cancelled because they changed their mind, heck yeah I would be angry. Hopefully they can reschedule.
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FutureMrsKC · on April 18, 2019 at 11:41 AM
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I don't think you're overreacting only because they picked the date. They should stick to it!
My step-MIL (who I am close to) made very little effort to come to my local bachelorette party in December. I was honestly surprised but she then traveled 3 hours for an entire weekend away with her friends daughter. I felt pretty hurt but overall you can't make people do something. You'll have a great time regardless!
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Alyssa · on April 18, 2019 at 11:41 AM
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I don't think you are overreacting. I would be upset too. As someone said above, if I commit, I go, end of story. I know they probably all think they have something to do but it doesn't take away the pain. I'm sorry
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Hanna · on April 18, 2019 at 11:46 AM
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The wedding is in 3 weeks so there is no rescheduling, unfortunately. My best friend can't go because of work, which I totally understand as we are both in law enforcement, but some of the others don't have very good excuses at all which just makes me feel like they don't care.
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Cristy · on April 18, 2019 at 11:52 AM
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I'm sorry you are experiencing this!! You are not overreacting at all. I would be totally bummed if this happened to me. What really sucks is that they picked the date! Now they can't do it? All you can do is make the best of the situation. Have the best weekend ever with the three ladies who are going to come!! You can still have a great time!!
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Judith · on April 18, 2019 at 12:58 PM
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I understand people not wanting to go to a bachelorette. Or being so busy, they only have time for so many things. But I will never understand people who over and over commit to things, then cancel on short notice. And usually, in truth, never having intended to go. But without the guts to say No, thank you, during original planning. So many rude people these days.
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Tara · on April 18, 2019 at 1:08 PM
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No you’re not overreacting, it’s okay to feel hurt and disappointed.
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Danielle · on April 18, 2019 at 1:20 PM
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I think it's normal to feel hurt, and I would too. Maybe they didn't realize it was Easter weekend when they picked the date? Either way, it's still disappointing. My advice is to go have a blast with the few that are able to make it, instead of bringing yourself down by concentrating on the ones that couldn't make it.
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· on April 18, 2019 at 1:22 PM
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That is a bummer. Did they not realize that was Easter weekend?! It's pretty crummy that they decided to bail on you at the last minute. Overreacting? I don't think so. You have a reason to be miffed.
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Jessica · on April 18, 2019 at 1:26 PM
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So sorry to hear this.. I hope you can still have fun with the people who are going. I understand feeling hurt, I would be too.
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H G · on April 18, 2019 at 2:15 PM
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Aww, I'm sorry. If I were in your shoes I'd be hurt too. I'm guessing people just didn't realize it was Easter weekend when they booked it. It's a careless mistake but I can see that happening, especially with holidays that change dates every year - people don't always check their calendars for stuff like that.
Enjoy your party with the people that will be there. I'm sure you will have a blast anyway. Sometimes those smaller groups end up being the most fun!
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WifeyPoo · on April 18, 2019 at 2:16 PM
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I don't feel that you are overreacting. This is a hurtful situation. It's going to be difficult but I encourage you to focus on your impending marriage. Your husband will be your rock and the person you can lean on in life....not necessarily your bridal party. Try your best to enjoy your bachelorette party. Those who have committed are surely looking forward to it.
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Kristin · on April 18, 2019 at 3:25 PM
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I don't think you're overreacting at all. I too would be hurt and disappointed but look at the bright side, some times less is more. This could be one of those cases. I used to love getting a big group together but there was always some sort of stupid drama that erupted when girls got together. I always believe everything happens for a reason so enjoy the weekend with the people who are there for you and don't sweat the others. It's their loss.
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Sherry · on April 18, 2019 at 3:54 PM
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I'd be upset too but can the party be rescheduled for another weekend so that more people can come?
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Maria · on April 18, 2019 at 4:28 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear this - I don't think you are overreacting! Is there any way that they can join for part of the weekend or are you traveling? Even if they could come for dinner and drinks Friday night before they travel to family stuff that would be some nice effort and a fun way to start the weekend.
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Hailey · on April 18, 2019 at 4:31 PM
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I’m so sorry 🙁 that is awful and sad that they didn’t plan better. I say make the absolute best of it when we went for my sister there was 4 of us and honestly it was a blast. Make the best of it and enjoy yourself, you only get this once and they are the ones missing out!
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