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Bachelorette Party Dilemma - Pregnant Maid of Honor

Kristina, on January 30, 2018 at 1:47 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

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Hi Everyone! I would love some advice. My original bach party plan had been to go to FL in July (I live in Chicago). I recently found out my MOH is pregnant, and won't be able to fly after mid-May. She is due 8/20. She said that she would be ok going to FL after the baby is born so we tentatively have the bach party planned for late September. Most of the rest of my bridal party would prefer to go in July or August, since some are in school or have other obligations. If we go in the summer my MOH obviously won't be able to go. But I also have a feeling that even if we went in September, she might last minute end up not going because she doesn't want to leave her baby (which I totally understand and would not be upset about). Knowing that this might happen, I just don't know what to do about the whole thing. I feel a little bit selfish, but my dream bach party is to just hang out on the beach with my friends and have fun. We are getting a condo for free from a friend, and I was really looking forward to it. I obviously want my MOH there, but I don't know if I should be shuffling everything around like this just for one person. I would really love input from other brides!

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Latest activity by Heather, on January 30, 2018 at 4:37 PM

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Jacklyn · on January 30, 2018 at 1:51 PM
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I would just keep it on the originally planned date. I think it is better to plan events for when works best for the most people, which sounds like July.
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Jennifer M · on January 30, 2018 at 1:53 PM
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I would keep the original plan that works for everyone except the MOH. Then later maybe you could plan for something less extravagant, like dinner or a spa day that can include your MOH without her needing to leave her baby for several days.
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BrideofLockwood · on January 30, 2018 at 1:56 PM
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I agree with the other comments - keep the original date and explain the situation to your MOH. I'm sure she'll understand and hopefully you both can plan something special together. Good luck!
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An · on January 30, 2018 at 2:17 PM
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Yeah I would just say you asked around (don't mention anyone specifically obv) and September is not going to work for your other friends. I don't have children but there have been posts on here from moms about people not really knowing whether or not they are comfortable leaving their baby until after he or she is born, so I would agree that she could change her mind, especially since she will only be a month old. I really like the spa day suggestion for just the two of you in September though.
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happeningmom · on January 30, 2018 at 2:20 PM
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Keep it as it was planned. I understand that she will be unable to attend however I also suspect that she will not attend a later one with being a new mom.
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KB · on January 30, 2018 at 2:28 PM
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I agree with PP. Keep the original plan. She may feel ok leaving the baby now but that could change. In the summer it sounds like more of the girls can make it without issue so I would stick to the earlier date.
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NVV2B · on January 30, 2018 at 2:38 PM
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Keep the original plan! It works for the majority of your bridal party and was what everyone agreed on.
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Red Queen · on January 30, 2018 at 4:07 PM
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Is this her first baby? I suspect she's not going to want to leave her child when he/she is that young, especially if she's breastfeeding. I wouldn't plan on her attending the September date, either.
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Heather · on January 30, 2018 at 4:37 PM
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Keep it when it is. Every new mom thinks they can leave their baby until baby actually comes. She won’t even be fully healed in one month if she wasn’t comfortable leaving baby. If she ends up needing a c section she’s not going to be able to swim at one month postpartum. Maybe you can plan a small spa day in your town for you and her later. It would give you two some one on one time and her a break as a new mom
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