Bachelorette Party Attendees

So you're planning your own bachelorette party?

First of all, you don't plan your own bachelorette.

Second of all, why a whole weekend hours away from where you live? That seems excessive.

You do not plan a shower or BP period. Yes you can have input as to how it happens but hopefully your friends know you well enough to know what your taste level is. It sounds like a girls gone wild weekend. I would re think the whole thing before going a step further.

I think that sounds fine! I'm sure your other girls want to celebrate too so doing something closer and just doing girls night out sounds fun.

Just because she's asking this doesn't mean she's planning her own party. I had to give a list to the person throwing mine. The bride usually decides guest list. And a couple hours for a lot of people isn't a big deal. In CA average commute is an hour. People are used to being in their cars hours every day.

My good friend has 2 seperate parties- one OOT with BM only and one in town with close friends.

I think its a great idea.

I hope that helps.

Just food for thought: we (15 of us) are going to New Orleans for my cousins bachelorette and it is a shit show. No one can agree, she is being really nasty to her MOH (her sister) and has already forced into outfits every day we are there. We are mostly miserable. Only reason I'm still going is because I want to see the city so a few of us are arriving early and leaving later to do our own thing. It's a mess. lol

I think just you and your BP is fine then if they wanna throw you something here, that's awesome too!

ETA: amount of people going

I don't think she's planning her own bachelor party people. She's giving input on to to invite! Which is totally normal...

And I think it would be great to have it with just the bridesmaids and most people will understand.

I know you're trying to make it easier, but it seems more complicated because you're adding another thing for everyone to join locally - just do the bridal party if you want to keep it small and leave it at that one thing. Also if it's being hosted for you, I'd be kind of annoyed to be asked to plan two weekends or Bach nights for you and not just one and I'm not sure how this would work without making the person planning do more work

I have three bridesmaids and a handful of friends coming... I think. I let the know MOH who I'd like to invite and I guess they all worked it out from there. I know a couple aren't going to attend but they appreciated the invite anyway.

I had 15 girls go to Miami from all parts of the US. 10 were bridesmaids and the rest were friends. We had a blast!!! I looked at it as a much needed girls trip/bachelorette party. We are planning on another trip in the future. I just read the other comments. We had a bride in a all white and friends in black night, same with a swimsuit pic, bachelorette shirts, and an 80's 90's day. We had some killer pics. To say being forced into it ehhhhh. Yes, some girls didn't get all festive BUT they did it and had fun once they did. I'm a theme person so they knew it'd be fun and themey.

I had three BM and two friends at my bachlorette cruise to Mexico last year- it was super fun, had the best time. My other three bridesmaids wouldn't have been able to make any kind of celebration, so it worked out perfect for my situation.

Mine will be with just my bridal party in Philly for 3 days. Ive had input on everything from the AirBnB, dates, times, etc. However, I have nothing to do with what will be happening once we touch down in Philly. I have no idea what they're planning.

For the record, I'm not planning my own party. Let me make that clear.

My twin sister is my MOH. She asked me a couple questions, knowing my taste. I sent her a list of who I'd like to invite. She and the bridesmaids came up with the whole thing, again knowing my taste, and I love it!

It's not a "girls gone wild" weekend, it's a spa weekend in the hill country of TX. I like this idea because I have one bridesmaid, who is my FSIL, who is under the age of 21. She won't have to worry about being able to get into a bar or whatever.

Again, these were all ideas from the bridal party. There are five of them. After all the planning help I've received from them, I'd love for all of us to have a calm, relaxing weekend away. And since they came up with this, I'm on board.

On an additional note, I did not tell my MOH or any bridesmaids that they'll have to plan an additional weekend. It was something I thought of, but haven't mentioned it.

For my bach we are going to Montreal with 17 girls (we are all from Toronto, Canada and suburbs)

My bridemaids found a great air bnb that is a bunch of really nice suites in a condo building and that is all I know!

17 girls also consist of two different friend groups and so far I heard it was easy to book and plan so guess it depends on your group.

Some people are a shitshow and create drama but lots of people go with the flow.

@Katie I think the weekend your girls are planning for you sounds fantastic, and I agree it sounds like it will be much better with the smaller intimate group. If the girls suggest a second one-nighter at home with the rest of you friends that would be nice too but I wouldn't suggest it otherwise they might feel obligated to plan another event they didn't want to in the first place.

A friend of mine had a weekend away bach party with close friends, and then a different friend who couldn't go to that planned a GNO for her close to home and invited way more of her friends. it was a nice surprise for her, and nice for all of us who weren't included in the getaway, but it was that other person's idea not hers.

I'm going for a getaway weekend to a spa with my bridesmaids! We felt it would be fun to relax and be pampered.

I love the retreat ideas for bachelorette parties!