Bachelorette etiquette

I just thought it was the girls from the wedding party and maybe other close family or friends only if u want them there. She wouldn't be inviting other girls you dont know especially if they arnt even invited to the wedding. Its not about the quantity its about quality.

Yea that’s what I always thought. Wedding party and close friends. And that’s it. This is getting out of hand!

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I agree. I also thought this was the "norm".

My husband was invited to a bachelor party and not the wedding. I think its rude. It's one thing if the wedding is an elopement or something. For instance, if the majority of the people there will not be attending the wedding and know that. However, I would be mad if I was invited to a bachelorette and the majority of the people attending were invited to the wedding. Think of all the people talking about the wedding and being the person not invited. Now, obviously if you don't know these people at all, I'm sure they don't expect an invite. I would talk to your MOH and tell her how you feel.

People you don't know is out of hand.
I'd stick to the people invited to the wedding

It should only be your close friends and family who are invited to the wedding.

Agreed with everyone - if you want to expand the group from just bridal party to wedding attendees who would have a good time, I think that's fine. People not invited to the wedding seems rude to them, and people you don't know is rude to you.

Yeah, if they aren’t invited to the wedding, they should not be invited to pre-wedding events. I would speak with you MOH and let her know this.

Agreed. I was invited to a destination bachelorette party once. I declined and was never invited to the wedding. So rude!

Whaaaaatttt I would be livid. No it should only be your bridal party, close friends YOU like and are invited to your wedding, and whatever family also invited to the wedding.

You should ask her for the guest list.. in fact she probably should have asked you

It's super weird she invited people you aren't friends with and don't know to your bachelorette party. I'd ask her why she did that and tell her not to invite people not invited to the wedding.

The bachelorette party should only consist of your wedding party and maybe a couple other close friends or family members. There is no reason she should be inviting people who you don't know. This party is supposed to be about you not her!

Sit down and talk with your MOH as soon as you can. Let her know who you'd like to invite and reiterate that people who aren't invited to your wedding shouldn't be coming to this. Typically the bachelorette party is just the bridal party and some other close friends or family members, like people are saying above!

Yeah it is YOUR bachelorette, so it should only be people YOU know/want there. Why would she invite her friends to your party lol? But yes, you are not in the wrong for deleting them. I would let your MOH know that they aren't invited if she didn't get the message from you deleting them.

That's kind of strange for her to do that.

I always thought that the bachelorette party included your bridesmaids and a few close friends. I'd be really annoyed if there were people that I didn't know because that party is to celebrate the bride.